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What is your relationship with your SIL like compared to your DSIS?

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TheKitchenWitch · 15/03/2019 15:11

Just curious really.
I have one DSIS and two SILs (DH’s sisters). I live in a different country to my sister but we talk most days, even if it’s just a quick hello. See each other once a year.
My SILs both live quite near us and I see both of them regularly (without DH). One I have a monthly coffee morning as we realised sometimes she’s would go by without us seeing each other. The other I see about once a week (I help her abut with her business). We also all three get together sometimes.
I feel very fortunate about this. Both my parents died a few years ago, and MIL is a bit useless so I love that I have these 3 women in my life :)

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delilabell · 15/03/2019 15:14

My brothers fiancee (so nearly sil!) lives 4 and a bit miles away but we talk regularly and have a good relationship.
My husbands sister..... We're civil 😂

delilabell · 15/03/2019 15:15

Love your relationships with yours BTW x

dreamingofsun · 15/03/2019 15:20

my SIL is an evil ugly fat chain smoking witch. we dont speak and i have no desire to ever see her again. due to her my brother and i dont speak either

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 15/03/2019 15:26

SIL is fab. Get on really well with her, she’s the female version of DH so obviously I love her.

NewFoneWhoDis · 15/03/2019 15:27

I count one SIL as a close friend, and there's mutual friendships with the others. My own sisters - I'm very close to all but one but even her I have a civil and cordial relationship with.

Poppyfr33 · 15/03/2019 15:38

I count my sister in law as another sister.

HJWT · 15/03/2019 15:41

Speak to my DH sister regularly on FaceTime
But she is 5 hours away so see them 2-3 times a year, would say I'm closer to her than my DSisters who leave close.

PIL though are both idiots 😁 really Don't understand how DH and SIL are such great people!

LaurieFairyCake · 15/03/2019 15:42

I love my sisters in law, they're all wonderful. They're fun, chatty, I go on holiday with them and have a great time.

My sister (who I adore the bones of) annoys the tits off me.

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TheKitchenWitch · 15/03/2019 15:47

This is really lovely! So often we hear people slagging off their SILs etc.
It's nice that there are others who also get on really well with theirs.

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feralfanny · 15/03/2019 15:49

I have 3 brothers and 1 sister.
One SIL is ok but they live abroad and we're not close.
One SIL is a complete bitch and I hate her. My brother doesn't speak to me because of her lying and backstabbing
Actual sister and I don't really get along. She gets on my nerves and I'm sure I annoy her too. Love her though.
And DHs sister is a superior cow who looks down on everyone so I avoid her where possible
BUT
SIL three makes up for the others. I love her to bits she's more like a best friend than a SIL

NorthEndGal · 15/03/2019 15:54

I have the good fortune to have a fabulous DS and amazing SILS
We genuinely enjoy each other's company, even if we don't have a lot of day to day contact (different time zones)
I trust them with my life, my children's lives
We'd each go the distance for another

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TheKitchenWitch · 15/03/2019 16:02

These are very heartening to read :)

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Pyjamaface · 15/03/2019 16:32

On DP's side (all at the other end of the country)
SIL1 I have only met twice, she seems nice.
SIL2 is nice, we chat occasionally on Facebook.
SIL3 I have never met but she makes BIL very happy.
SIL4 is a total cunt and thankfully will soon be ex-SIL

On my side
SIL1 is lovely and very much still part of the family even though the marriage ended years ago (DB has no issue with this as they always remained best friends)
DSis1, we are very close and see each other 4/5 times a week, go on holiday together.
DSis2, I used to be close to but rarely speak to her now. Her husband is a stuck up twat and has slowly, slowly pulled her away. I will message her every couple of months but don't often get a reply.
SIL2 is a cow, picks up and drops my brother as she feels, will not speak to anybody at parties, Xmas etc despite our best efforts. DB is not happy but has said he can make his own choices (true) so we keep trying

GinUnicorn · 15/03/2019 16:39

We aren’t married but I’ll call them SILs for this.

My Dsis is lovely. We are VERY different but try and speak every few weeks. We don’t have much in common but I enjoy her company.

SIL1 DP doesn’t have a great relationship with. She is very demanding and everything always has to be on her schedule.
However, she is kind generous and well meaning. I see her through him but I do think she is a lovely person just not the easiest company.

SIL2 is great. Really laid back and fun. I really like her and would happily chat to her independently from DP.

I am incredibly lucky with his family though. They have their moments but overall really nice people.

sueelleker · 16/03/2019 09:21

I love my SIL (DH sister) Although I love my sister, I have more in common with my SIL. She lives in a different part of the country, but stays with us frequently.

DelurkingAJ · 16/03/2019 09:27

Both DSIL and DSis are several hours away. Both are great fun and I’m delighted to see either but there is nobody I ring weekly or see weekly...not how my family works.

moonlight1705 · 16/03/2019 09:27

DSis 1 - lives abroad but we skype all the time to catch up. We annoy the hell out of each other but wouldn't change her for the world.

DSis 2 - always get along well but she's rubbish at communication so hard to get any chat going.

DSIL - we were friends before we met our respective husbands, in fact I met my DH at their wedding. Sadly they are experiencing the IVF journey at the moment and we've just had our first DD so she doesn't feel she can see us at the moment. Bit sad but can understand the reasons.

howdoyoukeepawaveuponthesand · 16/03/2019 09:31

I have a DB and no sister but my DB’s wife is so wonderful that I honestly see her as the sister I never had and love her like family. I also see her mum as a second auntie/mother figure as she is amazing.

As it happens my own MIL is also gorgeous and like a second mum to me. I am so lucky to have loads of brilliant women in my family.

PaintBySticker · 16/03/2019 09:32

Husband has two sisters and his brother is married so I have 3 SIL. I also have a sister of my own. I’m much closer to my sister than my SILs although I like them all and we get on well. Two of them live in another part of the U.K. so that limits day to day contact and the other usually lives about an hour away but is currently working abroad and is only back a few times a year. I don’t think I’ve ever socialised with any of them without it being a family occasion with my husband there but I think if we lived closely there would be more opportunity and that kind of relationship might have developed. They’re genuinely all very nice and I’m happy to be part of the family.

I was thinking about this in relation to the Duchesses of Cambridge and Sussex and any supposed animosity. I have been married many years now and as above I like all my SILs but I’m still closer to my own sister. I think that’s fairly normal really.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 16/03/2019 09:32

I have a lovely SiL. She doesn't live near me so I don't see her regularly but when we do see each other we get on well and I would (and have) talked about deep and meaningful things with her like my DSis.
We are similarly minded and have similar outlooks on parenting etc so we don't have much to argue about.
We have been on holiday with them (our two families together) and see them 3 or 4 times and year plus have a what's app group chat between us too.
She's a lovely kind woman and I'm very lucky to have such a lovely family in law.
My Mil is also fabulous and I adore her.

thewalrus · 16/03/2019 10:07

DSis lives 400 miles away. Speak every week, message most days, see each other 4 or 5 times a year. Kids and DHs all get along btilliantly. She is the first person other than DH I would call in a crisis
DSIL lives across the road, kids at same school, lives were very intertwined, less so as kids get older and busier, but we still see each other often and get on well, spend days together without our families etc. Kids relations more volatile as they see each other so often, a bit like siblings. We are hugely lucky to have them so close.

DSIL2 died about 10 years ago. She was younger than us and ill for the whole time I knew her so we were never close but I miss her and think of her often.

Gottalovesummer · 16/03/2019 10:16

One DS who lives abroad, we speak every day.

3 DSIL I get on well with all of them and sometimes meet up/stay with them without DH there.

Feel very lucky.

Rememberallball · 16/03/2019 10:33

My side - DSiS 1 we get on ok but not close and neither of us will make the effort to change that (backstory is I was disowned for something that was nothing to do with me and it really didn’t bother me; didn’t come to my wedding and only told us week of wedding when chasing numbers for caterers for special diets)
DSiS 2 probably closest sibling and chat regularly; live over 200 miles apart but we are having her kids over some of their Easter holiday from school.

DH side - DSiL 1 lives 20 minutes away, not close and would never ask her to help us out.
DSiL 2 (half sibling) met once, lives about 300 miles away, nice enough person but not close.
DSiL 3 (half sibling) never met, lives close to DSiL 2 no idea what sort of person she is.

We both have SiL through our brother’s marriages but aren’t particularly close to any of them.

I guess for some people family aren’t close and don’t have reliable relationships.

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