I've just played Manspread Skittles on the train. Guess how many points I scored

[GunpowderGelatine]

Just got on a train at the opposite end where I needed to be (that's where I was standing on the platform and I panic in case I don't hop on in time so I just got on) and walked through 7 carriages before I got to mine. I carried my little suitcase in front of me, and came across a number of manspreaders who seemed to occupy the half the aisle (no exaggeration) with their knees (only once did I see them sat next to someone). Note - no women were doing this. I decided to have me a game of Manspread Skittles (just carried on walking meaning my suitcase knocked into their knees).

Anyone likes to guess:

1. How many men I knocked in total over 7 carriages and
2. How many said sorry for being in my way?

I had never heard of man spreading until I read it on here but I realise I have been a victim many times. I am sorry as I have let you all down as I have moved my leg the minute his touched mine. I had bad experiences as a young person and don't like don't cope very well with strangers touching me. Fuck, sometimes I can't bare dh touching me when we are sat next to each other. In future I will endeavour to be a proper mumsnetter and stand my ground but I can't promise

Women do it but they move. Men expect women to move around them.

It really is the same. Did she stop to ask if anyone was ok? Did she think about those people at all but to hurt them to make a point personally I think her hurting people with intention because she was to entitled to say excuse me is worse than some just careless not taking people Into account.

It really is the same. Did she stop to ask if anyone was ok? Did she think about those people at all but to hurt them to make a point personally I think her hurting people with intention because she was to entitled to say excuse me is worse than some just careless not taking people Into account.

Why would anyone have to ask for people to get their legs out of the actual walkway? that's a given surely?

Yeah when the trains stopped not after it's gone again and people are seated.
Why should they expect someone to walk through 7 carriages past multiple empty seats and just be plain rude.

Why should they expect someone to walk through 7 carriages past multiple empty seats and just be plain rude.

Because it is a walkway all the time?

To be fair if i saw someone keep hitting peoples legs seemingly on purpose i wouldnt apologise if they did it to me, think its weird someone purposefully slamming a suitcase into people and then expecting them to apologise.

Tbh i hate the term manspreading as i see women doing it or women putting their bags in the way etc, i also dont see an issue of people spreading their legs if theres space to do so, if you squash other people you are an arse obviously though.

To PPs above, people need to get down the walkway to ermmm.... You know .. walk!!

If you manspread or woman spread(though it's rarely women) well into walkway so people can't pass and refuse to move when people need to get by, then you are being an ignorant douchebag!!

I walk so slowly with my stick as a disabled person and even if I didn't, the train usually has left station whilst we are searching for a seat (people rarely give up their seats even for a visably disabled person, they "look away" out the window to not feel embarrassed)

It is a problem that OP has rightly highlighted. And I suspect all those arguing against her are likely those very perpetrators who feel very entitled themselves. And ought be ashamed.

The problem is that no one calls out BS. I'm sorry but woman are a million times worse at this than me.
I do not understand why saying excuse me is in any way a hard ship. If being in the walk way is wrong the why don't we have masses of threads about women who won't move in the supermarket to busy having a chat, buggys cluttering up walk ways and making a general hazard of themselves.
Just say excuse me.
People may have been on that train hours or a few mins they have the right to sit how they feel comfortable.
Just be polite and don't be some damn rude yourself.
Two wrongs don't make a right, isn't that one of the first things you learn in school????

Because OP said what the rat if us observed in our everyday real lives. Or do they not count to you ?.....user 69.... As it's great you don't have a similar problem. But that doesn't mean a lot of the rest of population do

And I don't believe you that woman do it million times worse than men! Your efforts if supermarket trollies is so not the same!
DOH!!

*E.g not efforts (stupid autocorrect!)

Oh I see men can be a nuisance and woman can't?
Nice to see how mum's net works, every one or these threads is woman good men bad. It's shameful to see.

I was that annoyed at "user 69.."s stupid post that I didn't spell check most of my post!! 🙄😠😠

@user6949671 you are shameful and probably th very perpetrators that OP was taking about. Fgs RTFT. Or if you haven't experienced it, don't try to downplay disabled or women's genuine RL experiences. If you haven't experienced it, then you have nothing to add as millions of others have!!

Classic female socialisation and subordination there @User6949671.

Come on ladies, make sure you beg for forgiveness and say "excuse me" if a man is in your way!

Never, ever treat the space like it's yours too. They have long legs you know, bless em, and might be too scared to leave the house if you're not warm and welcoming and smiley.

The moment someone says that's how "mumsnet works" you know they are a troll trying to silence real people's experiences and views. Because a real person would be empathetic and not try to make generalisations. They might out their own point if view but accept others may have different experiences.

What an idiot for showing your true colours @user6949671

My opinion is invalid because it doesn't match yours? Rude
I'm not down playing anything I didn't once say no one had experienced this or is making it up. I'm just saying acting in such a rude manner doesn't make OP in the right or any one else for that matter.
Say excuse me and they refuse to move and give you abuse fine you have an issue. Act like an entitled idiot and hurt people for a game and you a the problem.

*own or share , not out . Sorry, so cross at an obvious GF.

*user69...

I clearly didn't say that -DUH!! .
You are deliberately misquoting and being unpleasantly goading and should stop now before other pp start on you too for your narrow mindedness.

It's not narrow mindedness at all.
This is just a male bashing thread, no one mentioned the woman who are equally rude and aggressive. Its all men being evil.
I really and truly do not understand what the issue is with saying excuse me, if you can educate me on this please do.
I've been in the way on more than one occasion and been met by huffing and puffing when a simple excuse me would have done and moved things on quicker.
I honestly do not understand the issue of basic manners being a hard ship. Sorry

Because it isn't about OP being polite as she is, it's about others not being polite nor kind. Just RTFT fgs and put your listening ears on as you are trying to blast over what has been said and turn this thread into something it's not. This is not about your agenda it's about something real that people experience all the time and if you haven't well great for you, just don't exagorate.

You are coming across as a troll and I've reported you.

Wow, you've just admitted you are a manspreader @user6949671. Maybe this isn't the thread for you if you can't listen to others experiences on impact of your behaviour.

I don't get this whole 'manspreading'... I'm pretty sure it's to do with needing more space for balls and the whole 'pack'. There's a class photo of me at around 14... I'm the only girl sitting with legs apart wearing trousers, all other girls are wearing skirts with knees modestly glued together.

I am listening. I can see a simple solution which apparently I'm wrong in. Educate me otherwise.
No not manspreading. In the way with a buggy and 2 kids which according to this is not an issue.

You are mixing up what OP is talking about and it's not about you user69, this isn't your thread and you clearly haven't RTFT so stop being a GF.
Sheesh if you are a woman, you are being a very unpleasant one. I don't need to educate you because it's at your enagabeney whether you choose to reschedule and listen to others experiences or not. Plenty here.
Disabled people and people trying to get by 27 men putting their legs out into walkways and not moving for a passing person nor disabled person, is the actual issue. Do you jump over their legs when they won't move?

You are not talking about that, you've changed the issue and are derailing the thread about YOU!

So stop fgs, when you don't understand what OP and other PPs are talking about.