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Help to get over someone I shouldn’t be talking to

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Mumtobesjs · 14/03/2019 23:46

I need help, I finally admit, I’ve been talking to this guy for a year now, I think I really fell for him and I thought he did me to, but I’m married, he came along at a time I guess I was in a vulnerable place, I had been married a year when I started talking to him and i liked it, liked how he made me feel, now I’m pregnant and we’re still taking, he now has a girlfriend but I
Can’t stop thinking about it, I want to get over him, then I feel like I don’t want to get over him, but I no I have to and need to, I just need help

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memaymamo · 15/03/2019 00:15

You need to go cold turkey and tell him you'll no longer be talking. Then you distract yourself and let time heal the wounds. There's no other way.

Palominoo · 15/03/2019 00:19

You posted about this before.
Just put in mind that a decent man doesn't sniff around a married woman.

AS I told you before he is not giving you support, he is enjoying his ego being massaged by you thinking he is the saviour in your life.

He's a creep. He's now even got a girlfriend but is still chatting to you in private. That's horrible.

Drop him and don't look back. You don't need that kind of person in your life. He's a chance and I doubt you are the only one he's stringing along.

atlastifoundit · 15/03/2019 00:20

Talking - online or face-to-face?

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Mumtobesjs · 15/03/2019 07:44

Online mostly, we’ve spoken face to face just the once, I no I’ve posted about this a couple days ago but I am asking for help as obviously I’m not dealing with things very well at the moment and I wanted a little more support and advice

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sackrifice · 15/03/2019 07:46

Do you not want to be married and have a child?

BlueCornishPixie · 15/03/2019 07:52

You need to just stop. Completely. no contact with him. Block him on fb/whatsapp all forms of communication. If you really wanted to stop why would you not just block him?

Do you love your DH? Think of how hurt he will be if he finds out, or if it goes further. If you care about your DH block this man.

If this random man felt the same he would have made a move, but he doesn't and now he's got a girlfriend. I doubt he would have got a girlfriend If he felt anything for you mid chatting.

Tbh there are so many men out there who say all the right things to to women, this is purely an ego boost for them but it flatters the women. They don't mean it. They are sleazy and creepy. Why would you want to talk to someone like that anyway?

BlueCornishPixie · 15/03/2019 07:54

The problem is is you don't really want to stop because otherwise you would have done. You are in control of what you do and you have the power to stop it.

No one is making you talk to this man, it's all you. You talked to him, you carried on when you felt you were developing feelings and now you are still carrying on. And you will be the one hurting your DH when he finds out

Nancy74 · 15/03/2019 08:13

Saying you need 'help' makes it sound something out of your control. That's nonsense. You are completely in control of this so pull yourself together, stop the self pity and stop.

killpop · 15/03/2019 08:16

How would you feel if you husband had this type of relationship with another woman , especially whilst you are pregnant!

Stop messing around. If the pair of you want to be together you need to leave your partners.

BastardGoDarkly · 15/03/2019 08:17

Wakey wakey.

You're not star crossed lovers.

You're a married, pregnant woman. Hes a sleaze (so are you actually)

If you want to be doing divorce courts, and every other weekend without your child, then carry on, in sure itll all work out marvelously.

BlameItOnBianca · 15/03/2019 08:25

Delete/remove/block everything that's linked to him; e-mail addresses, phone numbers, everything. You have to go cold turkey if you're serious about your future with your husband.

Talk to your DH about this - that will pull you out of this pretty sharpish.

PoptartPoptart · 15/03/2019 08:26

I read your other post. You were given lots of good advice to stay away from this man. Only you can decide what to do. The decision is in your hands.
You have two choices:
Either block this man from your life and concentrate on your marriage and unborn baby.
Or, tell your husband and go and be with this fantasy man and hope that he loves you enough to stick around through all the shit that is going to hit the fan.

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Mumtobesjs · 15/03/2019 08:44

Thankyou all for your advise, I am however not looking for pity and yes I do no how it feels as my husband has cheated on me before yes before we got married and we were young but I still think about it all the time,I no im The only one in control to stop this but I came on here because I wanted help and advice as I admit I didn’t feel I could, I probably am having doubts as to weather I want to be with my husband but can’t help but think it’s all to late now we’re married and have a baby on the way, I feel like this is me now I’m stuck and I carry that feeling around with me all day everyday, I guess this other guy was just a welcomed distraction but probably nothing more than that

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Mumtobesjs · 30/04/2019 09:17

Help! It’s my sisters suprise 30th birthday party 2 weeks after my due date, I want to be organised and get a dress ready but how do I no what to go for? Once I’ve had the baby will a lot of my belly be the same size or will it be where it is now? Do I buy maternity dress even though I won’t be pregnant when I wear it?

Thanks!

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Bluesheep8 · 30/04/2019 09:51

Eh? Where did the dress question come from?

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Mumtobesjs · 30/04/2019 10:19

I didn’t no how to start a new thread, doesn’t matter that it’s on the same one

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