Having no family or friends

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This genuinely isn't aiming to be good, it's a genuine question I'm curious about.
I see so many threads on here where OP says she has absolutely no friends or family that could help with x / y / z, even in an emergency.
I don't think I've ever met anyone who has no one beyond their immediate family, most people I know seem to have friends and / or extended family around.
If you have no one do you feel a bit panicky and worried about what would happen if you were ill or even worse died, what wold happen to dc etc?
Are people happy to have no friends about, is this a lifestyle choice or just lack of opportunity?
I do realise this may sound goady, but it's really not meant to be.

Yes I worry a lot. I moved country to be with what I believed to be the love of my life. Got pregnant ended up in a refuge and now live here with only a basic understanding of the language and can't move back due to the Hague convention.
I have no one here. I'm lonely and sad and I worry all the time. I don't have time to go out to make friends as have to work and the look after my child. My family are in other countries

When we moved here it was just DH and I, our family is 3+ hours away (drive) and no one we knew when we had a home emergency just days after moving in.

I am lucky that I've not had to work and so have ploughed time and energy (I'm an introvert) into making a couple of close mum friends who I have turned to for childcare. I have done the same in reverse for them. It is really hard though and only luck really.

No family support anywhere close by and not the type who would ever babysit. Only got a few close Mum friends.

Yes it does get you down from time to time.

Its really hard for some one who didnot have any friends or family near to them, I am wondering how they even survive.

I know there will be certain situation where you need to stay alone & have to make ownself happy.

It matters that few people like spending time alone & they are literally happy with that but spending time alone & having no friends are 2 different scenario.

If I think about my self without a single person whole of my life it really freaks me out.

I really don't know what would happen to ds if dh and I died. We've been through a nervous breakdown, accident with life changing injury and permanent disability and lots of other shit and have had no help at all from family. Tell a lie, dhs parents did have ds for one night when dh begged them - one night in nearly 13 years.

We've moved around a lot, work very full time, and so making friends at any depth is really, really hard as its so full on just keeping our lives going.

User that sounds awful, how does the Hague Convention stop you leaving, if it's not too personal a question.

It sounds really hard for all of you without support

If I leave without the fathers permission I would be arrested for kidnapping . He will never give permission for us to leave so I have to stay here. It's tough but I get through it for my child .

I'm an expat and have been for over a decade at this point. I also originally grew up in a hamlet where I was always the odd kid out as a bookish girl. My dad and I don't speak and my sister's married halfway across the globe.

So, yes, I do worry. I hate being all by myself on evenings like tonight when work has been hell. My colleagues go home and find distraction among their families. The very young ones have life-long friendships to fall back on. I just stress about whether we can pull this off still and have a hard time falling asleep at night.

I've some friends around here, but they're work friends and that's the last thing I need to unwind.

• leave the country.... we are in different cities