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Year 7 DD being bullied, school doing nothing

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Windees · 13/03/2019 11:59

Since January she has been isolated by her classmates. She sits on her own and is too shy and lacks self esteem to approach another child. I spoke to the school who said her teachers will keep an eye on her and but she seems fine in class.

Since January it has progressed to bullying. Girls in her classes are calling her ugly, weird, telling her "no one likes you, no one wants you here". I've called the school, emailed to leave a paper trail, had a meeting. They said due to the logistics of timetables they are unable to move her groups. They said they'll try to encourage new friendship groups, the bullying is "unkind" but really she's there to learn not make friends. Contradiction. She text earlier hiding in the toilets beside herself as the girls called her a nobody and are teasing her IN CLASS.

My beautiful, funny, singing dancing girl is a shadow of her former self. She hides in her room, is quiet, won't eat, has anxiety attacks before school and leaves crying saying she's terrified to go. School are USELESS absolutely useless.

So what can I do? WIBU just not to send her? The head of year is of no use and does not listen, not to mention communication is shocking from the school as a whole.

Help. Please!

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listsandbudgets · 13/03/2019 12:40

I've sent you a PM about part of this but just to add

The school must have an bullying policy and if they're not engaging it you should insist and make sure you put everything in writing

Namechangedbecauseiwantto · 13/03/2019 12:47

So sorry about your dd, that is terrible.
The school are failing her in many levels? Is moving school an option?

BlankTimes · 13/03/2019 13:00

So sorry to hear this.

I know it's not what you want to do, but sometimes it's much easier for a child to move schools and have a fresh start, rather than trying to make school deal with something they obviously have no interest in and they are unlikely to do more than the minimum.
There's already a huge gap between what school should do and what they actually are doing.

Also check that she's not being bullied online too by these girls.

I know, it's not fair, your dd should not have to move, it's the other pupils that are causing the problem and the useless school need to do something about it BUT moving her to a new school is a quicker solution and it stops the situation in its tracks.

BlueChampagne · 13/03/2019 13:03

You could also forward your paper trail to the Head and Chair of Governors. But I tend to agree with BlankTimes.

Windees · 13/03/2019 13:39

Thank you lists I will reply later.

I have contacted another school but they have no space. The next nearest school is 25 miles away with no bus route, dh has the car during the week. The school she is currently at is a 5 minute walk. She has been begging me to be home schooled but it is not possible due to toddler and working.

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Windees · 13/03/2019 17:09

Am I able to take her out of school until this is sorted if I obtain a medical certificate?

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CurbsideProphet · 13/03/2019 17:16

I don't have anything really useful to say, I just want to keep this bumped for you. The school are failing her in such an awful way. The bullying policy should be available on their website, so it would be worth having a look to see what they claim to do in instances of bullying.

DanFmDorking · 13/03/2019 17:19

General points -

  1. Keep a diary of the incidents and record everything that happens, date and time and what was said.
  2. Ring the school tomorrow morning (I said tomorrow morning ) and tell the class tutor what has been going on.
  3. Write to the school/teacher about the problems. It needn’t be long and rambling just short and to the point. "Dear Headmaster..." “I am very disappointed to find that … My son/daughter is very unhappy at school because …”
  4. At the end of the week, check with the school to see what has been done. Ask them what progress has been made regarding these problems.
  5. If you are not happy that the problems are being addressed then take it up with the Headteacher. Ask what progress has been made regarding the problems.
  6. You may choose to approach one of the Governors about the problems ‘I’m concerned about … I want to make sure that I’m going about this in the right way’. The Governors should check that the correct procedures are been followed.
  7. How the school addresses parental concerns is a measure of how good the school is.

I hope this helps.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 13/03/2019 17:29

You need to stand firm and tell the school straight that this needs to be sorted out. No messing about excuses ifs or buts, from them.
The school are enabling this to go on. That is abuse.
Do you think for one minute they'd put up with it for their own children Angry
I fucking hate bullies. Angry

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