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Don’t know what to do to improve my mood at the moment!

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Toothypegs469 · 13/03/2019 03:12

Don’t know why I’m posting here really other than just need to vent. Can’t sleep as things are going round in my head even though it’s important I get sleep... just cant switch off

So I feel that everything I do is wrong, I’m ignored/criticised by my husband, black sheep of the family, daughter doesn’t respect me, get ignored / belittled by my work colleagues, everyone expects 100% of me yet are disappointed when I just don’t have that much to give. I’m really just sick of it all. Life’s not much fun at the moment and yes I’m being self absorbed by moaning and know there’s bigger problems so I don’t expect any sympathy or anything just don’t know what to do?

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Okokokok · 13/03/2019 03:23

Could you find something to do for yourself? Nights out,a hobby, join a gym or something. Something where you put yourself first and have a good time

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Toothypegs469 · 13/03/2019 03:31

Thanks for that suggestion. I feel I can’t do any of those things due to lack of time and cost. I take myself off for a long bath and my husband berates be for leaving him on his own... I can’t win!

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Okokokok · 13/03/2019 03:39

How old is your daughter? Why can't your husband be on his own for 30 mins? Sod him, you need to start putting yourself first

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Toothypegs469 · 13/03/2019 03:52

She’s 5 and he says he enjoys my company but when I’m struggling after a shitty night sleep he gets annoyed almost? He never says it directly but reading his body language he’s not impressed

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IdblowJonSnow · 13/03/2019 04:35

If everyone around you is responding negatively then you might have low esteem which people pick up on and if they are weak/bullies, will take advantage of this and be mean to you. Your husband doesn't sound very nice? Time to get assertive. Tough shit if he doesn't like you going in the bath ffs! That sounds controlling.
I think you need to take some control back and worry less about other people op.

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Toothypegs469 · 13/03/2019 06:34

Thank you, i do think I try to be assertive (more so as I get older) but will just try to step it up xx

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BlueMerchant · 13/03/2019 06:42

Do a little something just for you today can be small- just to remind yourself you are special.( I'm going to fit in 20 mins in the library and then pick up a slice of cake from local cafe to have tonight when DC are in bed.

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Toothypegs469 · 13/03/2019 06:44

Hi Blue merchant I will try. I’m at work today and are hassled as soon as I get in the door so I will try and find some time to myself at some point - it’s not easy though x

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Dermymc · 13/03/2019 06:46

Your husband sounds like a dick tbh.

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. His reaction will be interesting.

Fifi37 · 13/03/2019 06:53

Morning All
I’m really sorry but I have just joined and needed help in creating a chat about my pregnancy issue. Can someone please guide me. X

Fifi37 · 13/03/2019 07:01

To the person who created this feed:

I’m really sorry to hear how you feel at the moment. I think you should perhaps take a weekend break away from you situation to give you some ‘you’ time. If you can just book yourself something and go. As selfish as it may sound to do this but sometimes we all just need to think about ourselves and not everything else around us. You are very important and matter so need to look out for yourself! When you have had some down time then come back and tackle what the issue maybe because only by talking about it will you be able to move on. Hope that helps. Xx

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Toothypegs469 · 13/03/2019 13:15

Thank you Fifi37, I’d love to do that but have just so many responsibilities that’ll only get worse if I take some time out, I don’t mean to keep batting back the suggestions and I do really appreciate them but I think an early night tonight is in order and then go from there xx

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ilovetrees30 · 13/03/2019 13:18

Have you tried writing all your thoughts down before bed? You need to try and do some self care and look after yourself first. Go for a walk, read a book, have a bath, a cheeky chocolate bar?

I have been struggling with anxiety and low mood for a while now so I have self referred to IAPT. I have had my initial conversation with them and I already feel better because I am doing something for myself to help me feel better. Is this an option for you?

HollowTalk · 13/03/2019 13:23

Your husband sounds like a complete knob.

Does your daughter pick up on his disrespect towards you? Is she copying him?

You really need to have some assertiveness training, I think.

Now that the nights are getting lighter could you take your daughter for a walk in the early evening? Try to get some time alone with her where she sees you in a different light. Don't give in to her too much - she won't respect you for that.

It sounds really tough.

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