Husband left, I'm still in love

[AvocadoYUK]

So my husband told me this evening that he wants to finish things and break up. Simpley because he doesn't love me anymore. This is all completely out of tbe blue and i am madly inlove with him still so can imagine how broken and hurt i feel. We have a 18 month old too.

Anyone been in this position before? Any advice to help the uncontrollable pain I'm feeling? I just... Im at such a loss...

I really need some advice.

Sorry to hear that Avocado. I'm not sure I can offer advice other than try and concentrate on your child for now and seek help from friends, family or neighbours. Are your finances under your control? Good luck.

OP I'm so sad for you but unfortunately there isn't anything you can do. If you begged and pleaded and he came back it would always be in the forefront of your mind that's he doesn't love you and he may leave at anytime. It's all very raw so take some time to rebuild yourself. Fill your days with as much as you can. Talk to a friend or family and vent your frustrations. Try to negotiate child care and financial help with him and let him go. Bloody hard, I know. PM if you need further help. Good luck.

I chose to be a SAHM cos it was what he preferred and best for us all... he's paying for rent and everything until I know what i want to do but it's just so..... like I don't even care at the moment you know?

If he can just fall out of love and drop you that way maybe he is not the person you believe him to be?
Try to get some real life support from your friends and family.

A similar thing happened to me, my partner of seven years left because he hated my then 17 year old. He said if I had kicked my 17 year old out he would have stayed with me. I was gob smacked, he told me this the day he came to collect his things. I never saw it coming, it was completely out of the blue. We had to move back with my parents which is a struggle as they're not very supportive or encouraging towards my now 20 year old. But Avocadoyuk I stand up straight, take a deep breath and get on with things the best I can. Initially I cried everytime I heard Adele on the radio and I cried myself to sleep many nights, it is hard but I refuse to give in, there have been times where I have come close. You can do it and you will be ok, it's been 3 years this year and I am still not over him. I've been on 1 date and spent the date comparing him to my ex which is bad but I couldn't help it. I miss him everyday, we used to have a great laugh together. I still get the longing ache in my gut when I think about him and my eyes well up. What I have learnt to do to get rid of this feeling, is to remember all the times when he was a complete (you know what!) then I remember, I'm better off on my own.

Sorry I forgot to say, for your child's sake encourage your husband to have regular contact. A child does benefit greatly from both parents, my ex husband couldn't be bothered with regular contact, no matter how hard I tried to make it happen. They don't have a very good relationship now, I feel awful about it. Also make time for yourself, pamper yourself, catch up with a friend, join a toddler group to meet new people or an exercise class. I hope you are ok, the pain does ease over time. Big hugs to you x