Does anyone else not like cuddles at all?

[Borelis]

I find it soo difficult to understand the craving some people have for cuddles.. like it makes no sense to me regardless of who with.. in fact, even if a guy mentions he loves cuddles, I feel immediately put off (generally not a fan of feminine behaviours in a potential love interest anyway). I do have a high libido but still, not a fan of cuddles at all - feels too overly emotionally, needy and a big waste of time. Sometimes I go along with it but I've never really wanted/enjoyed it..

A lot of people think that's odd, especially for a female - is there anyone else out there like me?

Ugh I hate hugs and cuddles except if it's my adult kids or my husband. Even with my husband I don't like it all the time 😅. I don't mind a hug with my Mum either.
I happy to give a hug if a friend needs a hug but otherwise I hate to be touched. I don't even like shaking hands. I'm amazed at how slow some people are to get that I don't like to be hugged. I tell people I don't like it and they still go to hug me. 🤷🏻‍♀️. A lot of my friend do the kiss, kiss hug thing every time they meet up. Good for them if that's what they like but leave me out of it.

I love cuddling DH.
I'll cuddle family if I have too.
If anyone other than the above try tried to cuddle/hug me I'd pull back & have no issue with telling them they are making me feel uncomfortable.

I like hugging my children and husband. But feel really uncomfortable hugging anyone else, even close family, I'm just not a huggy person outside of my nuclear family. If someone at work hugs me I clam up!

I think the references to feminine behaviour might be right. Women are usually more tactile than men. For whatever reason, this begins at quite a young age.

Moving on in age, you only need to look at how teenage girls interact with each other compared with teenage boys do.

I hate hugs from friends etc but I love cuddling up with DP. What's wrong with a wave goodbye? Actually, I don't even like sharing a sofa with anyone (DP sometimes allowed! )

I prefer friends to keep their distance tbh...

I think the references to feminine behaviour might be right. Women are usually more tactile than men. For whatever reason, this begins at quite a young age

Really? What about the oft quoted stereotype that “boys are more loving”? The one where boys are presented as “like labradors, food, exercise and cuddles”.

Funny how stereotypes can be manipulated to fit a certain view...

Starlight that’s not true. It’s just another stereotype which we need to stop perpetuating.

I hug my dh, I hug my children. Anyone else trying to hug me makes me shudder. My mum is an over hugger, I want to climb out of my skin when she hugs me.

I can't even bring myself to say the word 'cuddle'

God I sound awful.

I’m not a huggy type and my family know it. Sadly I don’t even seem to manage to be cuddly with children unless they’re babies - babies are almost impossible me to resist. Children seem to stop being as easy to cuddle past 4/5 for me. Which I sad, I know. I enjoy physical contact with my husband-even cuddles.

Apparently even as a child I avoided cuddles.

I hate it when strangers or people you vaguely know try to hug you.

I like cuddles with my partner and with ds to a point but I do reach a point where I need to move away slightly.

It absolutely depends on who is doing the cuddling!

Husband or children: As much as I can get

Close friends: A brief hug

Everyone else: Bugger off

What the hell is feminine behaviour?

I love them off DS but anyone else I really don't like them. Especially from partners. Especially in bed. They make me feel smothered.

What the hell is feminine behaviour?

Oh you know, being “girly”, emotional, cries at films, cleans the house, gossips/bitches with friends, likes glitter, unicorns and make up. Gets nails and hair cut and enjoys pamper days. Bad at maths and science, prefers cooking and watching rom coms.

Thanks for all your comments - good to see I'm not the only one.

To those who said it isn't a feminine behaviour - I've always thought it kinda was due to the stereotype of "men not cuddling after sex" that woman often complain about - not only stereotypically, but have seen it on forums like this as well whereas it's less heard of, by a man to complain about a woman not cuddling afterwards. Additionally, foreplay, whilst isn't 100% cuddles, etc, there's some element of cuddling to it, and it's again something that women are known to stereotypically enjoy more than men.

Twix you're right on one thing. It is a stereotype.

I wouldn't be using a forum like this to make sweeping judgements like that. It's hardly an unbiased, impartial source of information!

It absolutely depends on who is doing the cuddling!

Husband or children: As much as I can get

Close friends: A brief hug

Everyone else: Bugger off

Agree with this totally!

I can only cuddle my cat, but he won’t let me.