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ImpossibleSwirl · 12/03/2019 18:52

Have a supervisor at my job who is a genuinely nice person. They have picked up that I am sometimes fairly anxious about my job. One of those times a few weeks ago they rubbed my back reassuringly- not a fleeting thing, fairly prolonged. I was a bit shocked to be honest, but ok.. then they did it again the same day. This then happened every day that week.. and again this week (twice today). Accompanied by saying things like (when I respond to a question asking how I am, and I reply great how are you? "I'm much happier now you are here, as I always am"). It's not flirtatious behaviour, and not creepy...I don't know what it is. There's no attraction there on my part (I am extremely happily married, and they know that) - and certainly none on their part (I'm old enough to be their parent, overweight and very ugly). It is unnerving me though. I am starting to feel awkward around them, and not able to converse normally because it has happened. Any thoughts?

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SneakyGremlins · 12/03/2019 18:53

Tell them.

AsparagusSoup · 12/03/2019 18:56

Tell them not to touch you without invitation.

ImpossibleSwirl · 12/03/2019 19:35

Thank you. It's really playing on my mind, but I have zero desire to hurt them in any way.

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Heartlake · 12/03/2019 20:13

Next time it looks like it's going to happen say...

"Thanks for your support, don't do that though please! I'm not really a touchy-feely person. I like my space."

Talking good, unwanted touching not good.

ImpossibleSwirl · 12/03/2019 20:32

Thank you.

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