Husband on phone a lot

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I'm sure this topic has been done to death. But basically DH sits staring at his mobile all evening...social media, news feeds, all standard stuff. When I point out he's been on his phone and not talked for hours he gets defensive saying it's no different to me sitting there knitting.

My argument is that his 'past time' makes him unavailable for interaction with the people around him whereas I can knit and chat to him.

I can see he wants to come home from work and relax and zone out. But I'd like there to be some interaction after an initial period of time.

We are at a sticking point, so advice please.

Do you have a regular night out or day out together? If not, I think you should try to instigate one.

Thanks for the reply.

We have a baby so it's tough to get out just as a couple.

We'll be ok it's just that he loves his phone so much and I barely use mine. It irritates me as I feel it isolated both of us.

When baby is asleep Put your knitting down hide his phone ... set the scene you want .. movie night? Dinner? Soft music & relaxation?

Take it frin there .. an hour or 2 just being with each other before baby stirs or you both need your own time .. 🌷

Unfortunately, social media and using smart phones is kind of addictive. A lot of people fall into a trap of compulsively checking their accounts, as many as 100 times a day. I just finished reading a whole book about it. Putting your phone away and filling the time with activities will help. But if you're expecting him to sit and watch TV with you, that's not going to work. It needs to be meaningful activity, though, in my opinion, anything using the hands will keep him busy and he'll be less likely to want to reach for his phone.

All good advice thanks everyone. I shall make a list of things we can do....there's always lots of things we can/need to do and when the weather is better we'll be gardening or as some people describe it as 'drinking wine on the patio'. Maybe I could move the table beyond the WiFi range...tricky in a small garden but maybe if I put the WiFi box in a steel box I'll have a chance!?