How do I get DD to go to school?

[PickledLily]

She's saying she doesn't want to go because she has tummy ache and feels sick. She said last night she wasn't going to go. I saying she has to go which results in whiney voice, tantrum and flailing around.
To be fair she had a rubbish nights sleep (eczema) but the school refusal/feeling sick is a regular occurrence especially on a Monday. And I have to get to work.

Any tips for this morning? She's refusing to get dressed. She's 7.

Speak to her about whatever else is going on - friendship groups/bullying/tests to find out what's worrying her?

Well she is at home today again.
The only thing that comes up in conversation is the childminders which she is not keen on, but I have no other option there.

School says she's fine, doctors won't test for anything. A bit stuck really hence looking for tips to encourage her back to school.

Could she actually be feeling sick? Could be a dairy intolerance?

:-(

Yes I think she is actually feeling sick, she says she has sick in her throat. I've asked about intolerances, coeliac, as she is also often very tired, but the GP won't test for anything, they don't like putting kids through blood tests

Maybe try just cutting all dairy out for a week?

Personally, I'm of the opinion unless a limb has fallen off, then they go into school.

If she hasn't gone into school today then I would call her bluff and take her to work with you. Even if it's just making her get dressed and driving there. She what her reaction is. Tell her these are the options. School or work. Staying home in Pj's all day is not on the table.

I remember what I was like as a child and trying to get out of school. Nothing was wrong. I just couldn't be arsed some days and wanted to stay home and my mum was daft enough to believe me. Which is probably why I'm so strict now. Our school will ring if they need sending home and work are always more understanding when I've actually turned up and had school ring.

She still has to go to school.

If she won't get dressed put her uniform in the car and take her as she is.

I have seen this done by several parents at our primary, head takes them off makes them get dressed and gives them a good talking too.

My dd suffers from tummy aches - she has CMPA but we have never let her use it as an excuse not to go to school.

You just have to be no nonsense about it. School isn't an option it's non negotiable.

Anxiety can make you vomit, and definitely feel sick
If it's always Sunday night Monday morning you have a school problem, someone or something is making her feel not ok