Would you find this rude/unsympathetic?

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Person A says a minor grumble, eg I was cold in the night, I’ve cut my finger

Person B responds ‘oh’, rather than ‘oh dear’

We can’t agree on whether most people would do this or find it a bit short/uninterested.

Erm not sure it would even register with me that the 'dear' was missing from the 'oh'

Depends on how often A has a 'minor moan' at least 10 times a day and every morning with a moan about their night with never being interested in anyone else, or a rare on off?

Maybe they find the grumbler too negative and are trying to think about something else.

Person A sounds like a serial grumbler

A is less moany than B actually!

That’s exactly what I was wondering, Martha

Why is person b supposed to care about such a minor thing?

Is the 'oh' said in a sympathetic tone?

Because person B shares about 20x as many moans a day and gets a sympathetic response. Person A says one and gets ‘oh’.

The examples were actually from the other person, I couldn’t think of any from A.

I expect Person B had their mind on other, more important things - global warming, Brexit, ISIS, what to have for dinner...

The ‘oh’ is in a neutral tone.

one off

Sorry op

”Oh dear” can come across as patronizing though. Depending on the tone of voice.

Is A always this needy?

Do it back to B. See how they respond!

I'd find oh and oh dear equally uninterested and dismissive.
If someone said to me 'I've cut my finger I'd say something more like 'does it hurt' or 'how did that happen' or 'I'll get my microscope out

No, I wouldn't find this rude or unsympathetic at all. I'm not sure either of those examples even require that much sympathy. Unless there are say, other serious health issues, we are talking about a bad cut, or there are welfare concerns at play I would find it a bit weird if another adult made a point of telling me either of those things.

If the cut were visible or there was a bandage etc, I'd ask after it out of concern/offer to fetch a plaster but that's about it, as I say, what is another adult going to say or do about someone being cold in the night. What is there to really say?

Perhaps the 'oh' was an 'oh?' And they are waiting for more information but I think person A seems to have been after attention/sympathy and is miffed they didn't get it. Much easier to just say next time 'I had an awful night, I was freezing/cut my hand, I feel crap today, and just need to vent'