Long story short: my in laws (ex... still close with them) are coming to stay for the weekend. It will mean they're here on Sunday when I usually cook a sunday lunch but I just can't sit down to a meal with them anymore. I've reached the point my ex did... they are lovely but absolutely intolerable at mealtimes. Spend the entire meal commenting on what's healthy, scrutinising what everyone's eating, watch my DDs like a hawk when they eat and always commenting "you didn't eat enough!" or "wow you ate a LOT"!. They always always try to make you have more "no go on have it I'm fine" whilst watching... it's a CONSTANT chatter and watching of what everyone's eating. To avoid this I tried leaving dishes in the kitchen for people to help themselves then sit at the table... then I tried just plating up everyone's meals and neither of these worked, still they moved food around off their plates. I'm getting stressed just thinking about it, no wonder my ex has such issues with food.
Anyway - please could you give me any creative ideas for how to avoid this situtation? I can't just not feed them. Maybe just a big breakfast? Can't afford to go out to eat... Or just something very tactful but firm to say? HELP!