Fast version:
I have cut off al contact from my sister as she is a psycho and will never change and protecting my own mental state and children.
My mum, brother and external members hates that I have done this and thinks I should give her another 100th chance I have made it clear that isn’t happening. I have had enough and over the bullshit of dealing with her bad behaviour & meant to accept this and carry on as normal. I realise and seen a councillor that the best way forward is to cut off sister so that is what I have done.
But now have the dilemma my mum clearly dislikes me for what I have chosen to do. She treats me with contempt and is difficult. my mum thinks it’s been ok for my sister to give cards and presents for my chilrens birthdays and Christmas I have said it isn’t and that They given to charity shops. As she says she lives in hope. There is no hope I am not changing me mind. It’s not ok to not see someone and accept cards and gifts. I don’t understand how this is ok?!
Then last week my daughter gets into her chosen high school which is brilliant! But my sister has the audacity to turn up at my house when she knows I’m not there and pass over a card to my daughter. Consequently A day of joy turns into one of anger for me and I feel sad. The card goes in the bin.
Then tonight on the phone with another clipped hard conversation I said about reviving congratulations card and stupidly spoke without thinking saying people who were kind etc and missednout my sister and then mum said and my sisters name and I said well that went in the bin. And she consequently says that’s rude not for Fresia to put it in the bin. And then outside the phone down on me.
I am fed up of being the bad guy... I know in my heart I am doing the best thing for me but it’s distroying my relationship with my mum. Who I should also say is a hardcore catholic so forgives all bullshit and I’m not a believers and think you should just be kind and caring like a normal person. Sorry for the waffle but I am totally lost...