What do you do when partner refuses to do anything about his/her snoring?

[tilly1989]

Currently I'm on my sofa because my partner is refusing to do anything about his snoring, it's so bad it keeps me awake , he goes from loud to quiet in seconds and it's driving me up the wall, most nights I don't fall asleep until 3am due to sheer exhaustion and then I'm having trouble waking up with the kids in the morning, I'm at breaking point now where I'm considering refusing to share a bed with him until he does something about it, what have other people done in situations like this where your partner refuses to do anything about his or her snoring

Killed him. I got a new patio done at the same time, nobody suspected a thing.

Seriously, snoring can be a sign of sleep apnoea and can have serious health impacts. Has he been to the doctor? DH was like a new person after getting diagnosed/ getting a CPAP. If it's not sleep apnoea, there are still various nose strips/ pillows that can help.

My partner also refuses to do anything about his snoring.
Ive suggested he speak to the GP but he just won't. So I've come to the conclusion it is his problem, not mine. If he wants to share the bed, he sorts his snoring, until then he is on the couch.
Its been this way for a few months now. Still no closer to him sorting it. Starting to suspect he enjoys sleeping on the couch

Ear plugs.
Not kidding!

Have all my Sympathies! He should be on the sofa not you!
My OH did go see about it and they diagnosed some defect that a mouth guard would fix but he didn’t like wearing it because it was scary (diddums) so I have to suffer his snoring without even knowing if the guard would have helped. He never went back for his return appointment either.
Relatives say because he can’t help it I’ve to suffer. My baby shares our room and it’s starting to affect his sleep too. I’m at my wits end with it all. Can’t wear earplugs as they hurt me.
OP if you find an answer please let me know. I’m
Sorry I’m of no help but know I feel your pain.

Currently suffering with the same issue :(
Conveniently keeps forgetting to buy snoring

aids/book gp appointment
Can't rely on earplugs as baby due soon so would only be a short term solution
I am turning homicidal!!

Sorry I can't offer any help or advice but I want to let you know that you are not alone! It's absolutely rubbish and I feel your pain

I sorted it by turning him into an ex

My DH snores like an oncoming train. He will move to a spare room if it's really bad but I bought some of these, and an extension, and plug it into the tv in our room. It has really helped drown it out.

Honestly, sleep in separate rooms. I know a couple who do this, and she's even thinking of soundproofing his room.

He should be on the sofa not you!

^^ Absolutely this! Also agree with a PP regarding sleep apnoea which is not just uncomfortable for you both but dangerous for him if untreated long term. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_apnea

Same as @IndieTara

I left him. The pure selfishness makes me rage even now.

@todayiwin exactly it's just completely selfish

My DH snores. He needs to lose some weight basically. Until then, I wear ear plugs, he has nose strips that sort of pull his nostrils open while he sleeps, and if he's still disturbing me, HE sleeps in the spare room.

My ex used to snore loudly...

It's bloody selfish to say, "He can't help it"... Likewise he can't help doing "A, B or C". The shit men get away with

I snore but I didn't know there was anything I could do about it. If it was that easy, of course I would do it. I know you can get those strips of tape but what are they supposed to do? My snoring is in my throat not my nose. It honestly never occurred to me that there was anything that could be done.

DH snores when he's not in a deep sleep. He has quite a thick neck and it's definitely worse when he's carrying more weight than normal, but he's snored since was a (skinny) child. He also says he can't breathe out of his nose for more than a minute without having to catch a breath, and I suspect it's related. I have slept in the spare room occasionally but he doesn't like it as he doesn't want to start that on a regular basis. I'm also pregnant and am really worried about how a newborn will fare listening to him at night!

DH is in the army and I would like him to get this all dealt with through their health care before he leaves next year. He admits I'm right but that he's worried he'll be diagnosed with sleep apnoea and have to wear a mask. My dad has sleep apnoea but it's not the same "snore" as DH- you could actually hear DDad stop breathing and then do an insanely loud gasp/snore.

Do u have a spare room? I moved rooms. Before that I spent a whole week waking him up when he was snoring. He was so pissed off he went to the doctor. Nothing they suggested worked so I just moved into a different room.

Thanks for your replies everyone, tonight I'm in the bed and he's on the sofa, I've told him straight I will not share a bed with him until he does something about his snoring and I don't think he actually cares

I'd sleep on the sofa as exes snoring was like being next to a rhino. He'd wake up in the middle of the night realise I Iwasn't there then come and wake me up to go back to bed!

Seperate beds might be your only solution.
I have always snored and have tried various nose or throat sprays and strips but nothing worked.
My ex used to complain a lot and i slept on sofa for years until dc shared a room and i had the small room.

My dw now also snores sometimes but not so bad it disturbs me and she doesn't get disturbed by my snoring often either so it's all ok.

Kicked mine out of bed years ago and we've had separate bedrooms since - bliss. He also refused to do anything about it, apart from a pathetic "I'll try to sleep on my side". When we go away I try to book 2 bedroom accommodation, but we're off on a big trip soon, staying in hotels and I'm dreading being kept awake. I wear earplugs when we share a room but I can still hear him. Going to take a look at those sleep headphones!

I poke him and after a few pokes, he stops.

Snoring, as noted, is a possible sign of sleep apnea, so your husband should be tested.