Hi,
My son is aged 6 he has been seeing his biological father for the past 6 months every 2 weeks for 3 months it was supervised by a social worker so he could support my son. Now it’s at a supported contact center ordered by the courts. Today I had to pick him up early as my son had a mental break down at contact and tried to escape the center to get away from his biological father, getting my son to contact has been really hard he doesn’t want to go.. and when he is picked up he is really agitated and upset for days and days he really isn’t coping well. I tend to go to the center and wait in the waiting area, when I’m waiting, all I can hear is my son screaming and they say it is how he always is.. I don’t want to keep forcing him to go!
Little bit of a back story to this, His father has a restraining order and isn’t allowed anywhere near me or my family due to domestic violence.. I even moved area to keep us safe, he found out where we lived so I moved near to my mom again now. We was in and out family courts for 5 years with him trying to get contact, all the professionals involved (caffcass, perpetrators course) said biological father wasn’t suitable for contact and a danger. The courts granted him supervised contact due to the fact he had a girlfriend of 2 years vouching for him.. roll on 3 weeks after the judge ordered contact he has split up with said girlfriend and found new one who he got pregnant within a month of being with her... to me he hasn’t changed and I am worried for my son since the social working hadn’t been there helping my son cope... everything’s falling apart my son is suspected to have autism and this contact is making him really stressed out! I am not allowed to stay at the center like I did in the one with social workers, so I can not comfort him if he needs me.. the staff called me as a last resort today to pick him up due to them worrying he will seriously harm himself or else they would have left him screaming! I have never had issues like this with him myself, he is such a sweet gentle soul and I think biological father is trying to upset him on purpose.
My son’s asked me not to send him again, I’m so upset and feel so lost on what to do! Court has ended and it’s down to me on how contact progresses etc but I don’t feel it could ever progress. I feel like telling the center he won’t be attending anymore and asking them to tell biological father to send it back to court, I am not pried courts will try and blame me for my son not wanting to go. Please help