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Could dd be pregnant?

31 replies

Thiscushion · 09/03/2019 00:06

Didn’t know where to post this. Nc’d.

Dd is 18yo. Staying at boyfriends tonight.

She just rang to say her period has stopped after one day, less than 8hrs, of bleeding. Not heavy. It started yesterday and stopped at about 11pm last night and nothing since.

She’s on the combined pill and takes it about 9pm every night. One night she took it after midnight but otherwise always on time. She says they use withdrawal method for other reasons.

What would implantation bleeding be like? Just spotting or could you have a proper, bright red bleed?

I can usually advise her but I haven’t been on the pill in years so can’t reassure her regarding the slight delay in taking that one time but my thoughts are that it wouldn’t really matter. I’ve told her she’ll have to get a test tomorrow and I’ve been calm for her sake but I’m panicking a bit if I’m honest.

Can a regular period just stop for no reason? It’s not usual for her.

OP posts:
Weenurse · 09/03/2019 00:10

I would get a pregnancy test and have a talk about condoms

ShortandSweet96 · 09/03/2019 00:14

Even with the mini pill you have a number of hours before the pill is 'less effective' I think its commonly mistaken that if you forget one pill or take one pill late then it completely doesnt work. If you read the leaflet it just says it makes it less effective and to use other means of contraception until you've taken it for so many days again.

I'd say with a few hours late taking the pill, plus using pull out method I'd say shes most likely not pregnant. But not impossible, the only thing you can do at the moment is get her to take a test.

Crunchymum · 09/03/2019 00:19

You know way too much about your DD's sex life.

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Thiscushion · 09/03/2019 00:24

Thank you. We’ve talked about condoms but she gets a localised reaction to the ones she’s tried.

She’s very clued in about sexual health and can usually talk to me about anything but I’m not sure what else to advise if condoms are out.

I think all things considered she’s unlikely to be pregnant but the period stopping is definitely unusual for her and I don’t know what implantation bleeding could be like. She’ll just have to test tomorrow and whatever happens we can deal with it.

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TinselAndKnickers · 09/03/2019 00:24

She sounds a bit immature for 18, not to sound horrible! But at that age I'd have got a test myself and checked before going to my mum, as I would have died of embarrassment telling her about my sex life! BlushGrin it's not impossible, as the pill can't guarantee no pregnancy. But if it's not normal and she's not pregnant, it may be a blip! Periods are weird sometimes.

TinselAndKnickers · 09/03/2019 00:27

Cross post, immature was not the right word! Sorry OP. It's good that she can come to you Smile

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Thiscushion · 09/03/2019 00:28

Crunchy, dd feels comfortable talking to me and I’d rather be able to give advice than clam up about discussing with her and making her feel sex is a taboo subject. We talk when she has concerns and I don’t pry or make it my business to know her private business like some sort of pervert.

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Drogosnextwife · 09/03/2019 00:32

I'm on the mini pill and if I get a period it can last anything from a few hours to a week. It sometimes goes away for a day and comes back and it's very irregular. I would tell her to get a test and check though. Perhaps she already knows she is pregnant and this is her was of easing it in, like a pp at 18 I would have bought a pregnancy test myself without telling my mum. Nice that she feels comfortable to do so though.

killpop · 09/03/2019 00:33

Was her period due?

IsAStormApporaching · 09/03/2019 00:38

I actually think it is great your dd can talk to you so openly.
I fell pregnant very young and was terrified of telling my mum she took the new better than i did but it is a relief when you know you have someone to support whatever the outcome.
I hope my dd in many many years to come can speak to me so openly OP.
Hopefully its just an off month for her though, good luck.

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Thiscushion · 09/03/2019 00:41

I’d have been the same. My Dm was the last person I’d have gone to to talk about anything sex related. I couldn’t tell her when I had a period and she found out when I had my period I rolled out lots of loo roll and formed a pad and cello tapped the underside. I accidentally left it in the bathroom because I couldn’t flush it. She came into my room and said in disgust “get rid of that thing in the bathroom”. She humiliated me but she said and did worse things during my teens that were sexual in nature. I never wanted dd to feel shame or embarrassment so I always made sure we could talk and she never needed to be worried or feel alone with a problem.

She’s on her 7 day break from the pill so her period was due. It came as expected then stopped last night after one day.

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doodleygirl · 09/03/2019 00:45

The only immaturity are the posters implying the OP’s daughter shouldnt ask her mum for advice.

thecutecouple · 09/03/2019 00:56

Well, this is an interesting thread for a Friday night Hmm

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Thiscushion · 09/03/2019 01:00

Yes I understand and did debate whether to use my usual name. If there are NW about I’d willing to pm with them if necessary. I’m not changing back to my usual name just to prove I’m not a troll.

Anyway, I’ve got the answer I need. Thanks for the kind replies. Tomorrow will tell.

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Smotheroffive · 09/03/2019 01:14

I don't see what's the issue with a DD checking out an irregularity with her DM, especially when it comes to periods.

Shs probs been talking to her bt about it whos shrugged and looked blank, so she's called her DM for an opinion as its odd for her to stop her period after 8 hours.

I'd expect those kinda calls. What a horrible DM shaming her DD that way over a soaked towelade of tissues. Let's hope weve all moved way beyond that, but I do wonder sometimes!

I'd say she's best doing preg.test soon as so its ruled out, and yes, some latex free condoms?

toomuchtooold · 09/03/2019 09:02

Yes, it sounds like she could have a latex allergy. She should try latex free ones.

berrybubbles · 09/03/2019 09:06

I was pregnant at that age and got a test as soon as I missed my period. Told DM who tried to force me to abort and now 3 years later is fighting to have contact with the baby she didn’t wantConfused Just try and be calm and supportive whatever happens. Remind her that it’s her choice and hope all goes well OPSmile

LookImAHooman · 09/03/2019 09:28

The only immaturity are the posters implying the OP’s daughter shouldnt ask her mum for advice.

Exactly. Comments like the OP knowing way too much about her DD’s sex life? Just from that level of detail? Are people now really so a) ignorant of how lack of openness can contribute to teen pregnancy and STI rates and b) uptight and arm’s length? So sad.

thedevilinablackdress · 09/03/2019 10:23

The bleed you have when taking the pill is NOT a period. It is a withdrawal bleed built in to mimic the natural cycle. Not necessarily a useful indicator that you're pregnant or not.

www.theguardian.com/society/2019/feb/25/nine-major-myths-about-the-pill-from-cancer-to-weight-gain

thebabessavedme · 09/03/2019 10:30

hope it works out OP - I will always be there to give my dd advice, I dont have to ask about her intimate details, but talking generally about contraception is surely quite normal?

YogaWannabe · 09/03/2019 10:36

You know way too much about your DD's sex life

What an idiotic comment! I think it’s wonderful your DD can go to you! Clearly the children of the pearl clutching PP sadly won’t have that luxury

MigGril · 09/03/2019 10:39

The answer to your question was yes, I've had a bleed like this with one pregnancy. Only reason I suspected is I normally have very heavy periods and it was lighter and we where TTC.

I have also come across people who seem to be able to get pregnant on the pill even if they take it correctly.

I have the same problem with condoms it's a latex sensitivity, you can easily get latex free condoms.

Ohyesiam · 09/03/2019 10:42

My implantation bleed was one tiny blob of blood.

WhoGivesADamnForAFlakeyBandit · 09/03/2019 10:49

So she's not always taking her pill on time, and isn't using any other method of contraception? If she's not pregnant now, she soon will be! Why not encourage her to consider the coil? Try every kind of condom she possibly can - she needs to find a brand that works for her asap.

redcaryellowcar · 09/03/2019 10:57

I'm not sure what to advise other than a test (when it's likely to be conclusive) to say either way.
posters who are criticising the OP seem to be off track. I would be so glad my children would come to me openly and without embarrassment about anything they were worried or concerned about.

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