WWYD? Sleepover for my bed wetter

[SheldonandMama]

WWYD? My 7 nearly 8yr old has just wet the bed 3 nights in a row. She has her first sleepover on Saturday for a friend's birthday. She is so excited. However, when I agreed to it she was wetting very occasionally. This week it's regressed and I think she's likely to wet. The mum is lovely but I don't think she would be too sympathetic. I can't get hold of her to discuss or explain. I've raised the topic with dd, hoping that she would choose not to go and instead have a sleepover here in a month when she's had time to get back to being dry. My dd is sobbing herself to sleep...I feel terrible about it. WWYD?

Can you get her some large huggies pull ups for night time and pack her a couple with plastic bags to put the wet one in if she does wet?

What adult wouldn’t be sympathetic to a seven year old child?

My ds is much older and still wetsband luckily has very lovely friends and their parents. He takes his own sleeping bag and I sort it out at home if he wets.

Could you send a dry nights mat, for under the sheet? I have done this the odd time (my daughter was staying at my friends.)
My daughter is the same age but she suffers from constipation at times which causes her sometimes to wet. Have you checked this isnt the cause? As this could be rectified before sleepover

I would hopefully discuss with the mum and find a solution that doesn't mean she is excluded. I've had a friend who wets the bed to a sleepover, it wasn't a huge deal. I am glad I knew about it in advance though. The girl I had wore pyjamas pants for that night, and popped them in a bag in the bathroom in the morning, and I sorted them. Would something like that work?

I'm a guide leader and we have girls that wear age appropriate pull ups and the other girls don't notice.

As others have said send a Huggies pj pants, if she is worried about others seeing it she could wear a onesie. Do consider telling the mum though. My DD is quite a bit older and one of her friends can have issues at night, she knows I know and I just put a wet sheet down (she sleeps on a pull out futon bed) and we'd deal with anything that happened. Most parents would get on with it, but they would prefer to know.

Thanks for the feedback. She uses sleep mats and I could send her with sleep pants. Of she takes her own sleeping bag and mat, does that seem reasonable? Then she shouldn't cause any trouble. Phew.

Our DD still bedwets aged 7yrs unless lifted at my bedtime. She went on a Beavers camp a few months ago. I told the Beavers leaders but because they were having late night hot choc and obviously no nightime lifting, I knew she would be wet. My DD didn’t want to wear a pull up so i just sent her with a spare sleeping bag and spare pjs. So she just stuffed all her wet stuff in the wet sleeping bag. Her friends were none the wiser.
It really is more common than you think. We have had three 7 yr olds for sleepovers who have needed to wear pull ups. Their parents have just called me and let me know quietly. Try not worry about it. Either pop her pull up into her PJs and send her with a nappy sack or send her with her own sleeping bag.

Sorry, crossed posts .

My ds friend slept over recently and he wets. He had a pull up. He put it on in the bathroom before bed and the bin in the morning. It was no big deal at all.

My daughter takes her ready bed to sleepovers

Thanks everyone. I've spoken with the mum and she was lovely about it. It's on!

Excellent. I hope she has a lovely time. It might just be the excitement in the build up that has knocked things off a bit.

One of mine was a late bed wetter. She was always worried others would see her pull up and tease her, so when she was on a sleepover we’d put a pull up at the bottom of her sleeping bag.

She would then quickly slip her bottoms off, put her pull up on, and her bottoms back on. As she did this all in her sleeping bag, the other were non the wiser.

Great news!