Will I ever meet someone?

[Feefoe8]

I'm 30. I've been single for ten years. I've had plenty of sex flings in that time, but never a proper relationship or boyfriend and now it seems like they're all married and off the market.

Yet I have countless friends who'll break up from serious relationships, and are literally back in a relationship with someone else within weeks! How do they do it? What's the secret I'm missing?

It's not like I don't give myself the opportunity to meet people. I socialise very frequently, I've got plenty of friends, hobbies etc. I think I'm quite good looking, if it's not too arrogant to say. Why do I never meet anyone when everyone else bounces into new relationships with an apparently infinite number of men at their disposal?

What am I doing wrong?

Maybe they all think you've got it all, and have no need of a bf.

Well, I suppose nobody needs a boyfriend. I don't mind being single really, but I'm starting to think I'm going to spend the rest of my life single. I just don't understand how other people meet so many men.

Not convinced it's that healthy or desirable to go from a serious relationship to a new one in a matter of weeks. Is that genuinely what you aspire to?

Maybe you subconsciously don't want a relationship or could be you're giving off vibes that that's not on offer? It could be that you're not giving people a chance and looking for things to put you off. Or maybe you haven't met anyone worth settling down with?

Not convinced it's that healthy or desirable to go from a serious relationship to a new one in a matter of weeks. Is that genuinely what you aspire to? Yep! That's exactly what I said!

You're right, Chocolate, I definitely haven't met anyone worth settling down with. Where on earth are they and how do others bump into them so easily? I honestly feel like there's a skill to it that I'm not aware of. If I am giving out those vibes then it's not through conversation, because no single men ever speak to me.

Have you tried online dating? I met my husband on there after years meeting the wrong men. There's some good ones amongst the weeds.

I met mine at 31/32 so yup you've loads of time. I'd spent my twenties mostly single too.. don't give up hope!

I met mine at 35.

I was trying online dating and I met
My DH when I wasn't expecting to. Not through online dating. We were
Work friends. Suddenly single together. And then we just looked at each other in a different light.

He's my best mate more than anything! We have such a good time together and for me that need the attraction. I fancy the fuck out of him because he makes laugh all day.

How have your friends met people?

Bred not need