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Last Few Days Have Been Hell....Need To Vent!!!

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MissKatyKat · 06/03/2019 22:11

Just had the worst few days ever and need to let it out, I'm sorry!
So I had a miscarriage scare on Saturday night, false alarm thank god, everything is fine but still absolutely terrifying.
I came out of hospital on Monday morning, boyfriend was back at work so I was looking after our 6 month old daughter on my own, which is normally fine but that day she was a bloody nightmare! Moaning and crying for hours non-stop, didn't want to eat, didn't want to sleep, didn't want to play. After a while I was so fed up with her I just put her on the floor to occupy herself, at which point she did an enormous burp then threw up all over herself. We both stared at each other for a minute, me not quite taking in what had just happened and her looking absolutely terrified, then she burps again and throws up even more. So I take her to get cleaned up in the sink (she's normally very wriggly and I get scared she might drown in the bath ) While I was running the water she just sat in the sink looking honestly so depressed, just sat there with her head bent, so obviously my mummy guilt is way up there and I just want to die. Then she looks right at me, does another giant burp and throws up in the sink, so then I had to put her in the bath. After the bath she fell asleep on my bed in just a nappy so I left her to go and clean the puke off the floor. I'm alost finished when she starts crying again so I go to check on her and she's had a terrible accident so now there's shit all over my bed, so the sheets are in the washing machine and she's back in the bath. My boyfriend came home just as I was getting her out so he did the rest of the cleaning while I lying in bed with her trying to get her to settle, which didn't work because she was so uncomfortable. She'd just fallen asleep when she shit herself again. Boyfriend took her off to get cleaned as by that time I was too exhausted to move. She then cried for the rest of the evening before burping and throwing up all over my boyfriend, so another clean up then we all went to bed. Amazingly she slept pretty well but I checked on her at 6 in the morning and there was shit everywhere! Threw her sheets straight in the bin and dunked her in another bath because it was even in her hair! She spent the rest of the day crying and being uncomfortable while doing the biggest burps and farts I have ever heard coming out of a child (I'm aware I'm really not making her sound attractive, she's usually great I swear!) She seemed better by the evening but like she was really shell shocked by the whole experience, she just sat doing absolutely nothing and looking like she was about to cry until bed time when she put her head in her hands and started sobbing! :( Eventually we went to bed but she had to go in with us as she was just so sad and woke up once more in the night sobbing again.
Today has been much better and she seems her normal bright self again, apart from the fact that she now appears to have developed a fear of burping! She did a fairly small one after her dinner this evening, looked terrified, then burst into tears and was inconsolable for 10 minutes! She's now in bed and I'm sitting on the sofa, realising I have nothing to worry about now, feeling totally burnt out and crying.
I'm sorry for such a ridiculously long post but I just had to get it all out!!

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grincheux · 06/03/2019 22:20

Oh sweetheart I didn't want to read and run. Some days are always going to be better than others. I hope she's feeling better very soon. Maybe call 111 if you're worried about the amount that's been coming out of her too. Hugs!

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MissKatyKat · 06/03/2019 22:39

Thank you so much @grincheux I really appreciate that. We've been giving her plenty of water and I think she's over the worst now, I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Thank you for replying xx

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Gazelda · 06/03/2019 22:50

Wow, I'm not surprised your overwhelmed! I'm really glad she seems to be in the mend. Have a few quiet days to give you both chance to get back your mojo. Don't overdo anything, look after yourself and enjoy some lovely snuggles with her to make her smile again.

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Ringsender2 · 06/03/2019 22:54

In a few months years decades-- this will become the family funny poo story.

In the meantime, look after yourself and hope you're all over the worst of it

grincheux · 06/03/2019 22:58

Oh yes @ringsender makes a fantastic point save this one - it's hell now, but it'll be gold at her wedding reception explosive sharts and burps are always more amusing with hindsight...

ohfourfoxache · 06/03/2019 22:59

Oh Katy

You’ve done really well, please remember that.

Poor little mite, it’s horrible when they’re ill (especially when it’s on your bed as you’ve got nowhere big and comfy and clean to at least lie down)

donajimena · 06/03/2019 22:59

Is this your first D & V spectacular? Its horrid isn't it? You sound like you coped really well. I could never figure out how such a small person could produce so much liquid. Hope you are all feeling better soon.

twistable · 06/03/2019 23:01

Bless her! You've coped well! I'm rubbish at the bodily fluids

FrozenMargarita17 · 06/03/2019 23:03

God D&V is so awful when they're that small. They feel like shit, and don't know why, you feel like shit and you do know why! I remember my dd at about 6-7 months got a sick bug and she was sooooo poorly, she was heaving even though she had nothing left and I had to put her in bed next to me with a tea towel under her head to catch anything that might appear. I woke every time she started retching which was every 15 minutes. You do get through it though, and as PP said you can laugh about it once you're out of it !

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MissKatyKat · 06/03/2019 23:04

Thank you so much everyone! Yes I'm sure we'll be able to laugh about it one day, just not for a while yet! :)
Me and my boyfriend have managed not to catch anything so hopefully we'll be okay touch wood!
@ohfourfoxache thank you so much xx
@donajimena Yep this is our first D & V spectacular, she's only 6 months so has only been eating food for a few weeks. It just couldn't have come at a worse time! And yes I was amazed by how much she was producing, she's only little!
Thank you everyone xx

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MissKatyKat · 06/03/2019 23:07

@FrozenMargarita17 thank you so much for sharing that, it makes me feel better knowing I'm not alone and your story sounds much worse! We did at least manage to get not bad nights of sleep during it. She has gone through about 50 outfits though and one of my favourite babygrows of hers has had to go in the bin :( xx

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BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 06/03/2019 23:11

Oh the poor little poppet & poor you & your bf. The first time they get a proper tummy bug is horrible & it is scary for both them & us. Well done for getting through it! She'll forget about her fear of burps very soon but while she's still a bit wobbly with them can try a shocked intake of breath & saying something silly with a smile on your face? In our house we do "Oh my did you have a burples"? It gets a giggle 9 times out of 10.

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MissKatyKat · 06/03/2019 23:16

Thank you @BernardsarenotalwaysSaints that's actually a really good idea! I think being sick really frightened her and she's scared it's going to happen every time she burps now. I'll definitely try that next time it happens, thanks! xx

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FrozenMargarita17 · 06/03/2019 23:20

Ahhh mate that's rubbish. Was the babygrow definitely not salvageable?? You might be able to find another online maybe.

At least you're over the worst of it - it's horrible but she'll forget about it soon.

With her being frightened to burp, just make it a 'funny' thing - big smiles and laughs and she will associate it with that instead :)

BuffaloSpringfield · 06/03/2019 23:23

You did great! Some days are literally shit when they are tiny.

Its so upsetting, and you must be already drained. Im so glad she is doing better, poor poppet!

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MissKatyKat · 06/03/2019 23:30

@FrozenMargarita17 the babygrow was definitely not salvageable! I'm being silly and hormonal anyway, she would have grown out of it before long anyway, she just looked really cute in it. I might still be able to buy it in a bigger size though, I'll have a look. Thank you I will definitely try that with the burps xx
@BuffaloSpringfield thank you. I knew it would happen one day of course, it was just so awful! But yes, she seemed much brighter today so I think it's all over now xx

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Toothypegs469 · 07/03/2019 06:20

That sounds absolutely awful!!! You dealt with that SO well (probably better than I would!) - you done a great job. Just think that in years to come you’ll look back on this and laugh

LooksBetterWithAFilter · 07/03/2019 06:59

Well done you coped brilliantly. The D&V spectacular (I like that name for it) is always hard to deal with, promise you will laugh about it once the exhaustion has worn off. I can now laugh about 5 year old dd having a HUGE dinner at a friends house and sitting on the toilet and suddenly vomiting on to the floor. It was in her hair and everything so dumped her in the shower where she leaned over the side of the bath and vomited some more with me on hands and knees yelling in the bath...do it in the bath! While trying to clean up the first lot she’d done.

thebabessavedme · 07/03/2019 07:31

my family is all grown up now but I remember soooo well the times like this! the times when we all got ill one after the other, it would feel like the whole world had stopped and there was nothing else but poo and sick and smelly sheets to clean and dragging yourself about with horrible hair while everyone moaned and cried happy days! just remember 'this too shall pass'

Roomba · 07/03/2019 22:18

Poor lamb, no wonder she was scared. She'll bounce back and forget it a lot quicker than you will though.

Still shudder with horror when I recall DS1's first D&V extravaganza aged 7m. I came home from work barely conscious I was so ill with D&V. Walked in the house to find DS and DP in the same condition. God that was the grimmest 24 hrs of my life. I still recall the smell of the whole house, we were all traumatised!

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