How do you discipline your kids?

[Iwannabail]

My DD is 5 and did something pretty naughty but probably quite typical of most younger kids. Her and her friend ruined something and then she lied about it.

I have tried to explain why what she did was naughty and get her to explain why it was wrong so she empathises, but honestly and this is pretty much always when I tell her off I don’t think she really gives a crap..

How would you discipline your 5 year old so they understand there are consequences to being naughty.

If I take away TV I am punishing myself more than her!... I have a 3month old and TV is sometimes my lifeline!

Overall I think she is a good kid, but spirited.. as they say 🤣

What did they break and was it an accident or were they messing about? Did it belong to her? If it did then I think losing whatever it was plus a telling off is enough. For lying maybe say that her and her friend can't play alone in her room if you can't trust her to tell the truth? Ds is 5 and he also has pocket money which he gets for beinggood.

Turn it into a story or role play- or draw it out on paper. Then lightly discuss good choices if that situation were ever to occur again. It's hard for her at 5 to truly understand actions and consequences. If you are taking away tv / screen time etc, you really do need an alternative for them to do in that time or else they will nag you death about how bored they are and just repetitively ask when they get it back...it doesn't really teach them as such about making better judgements in the future.

If the incident caused upset / harm / frustration to another, you could get them to sign a sorry letter too to whomever.

Right first of all discipline and punishment are two totally different things.
Discipline is teaching right from wrong, not necessarily punishment.
At this age I would teach consequences through role play, questions about what is right and wrong, followed up with examples of what to do if they are in that or similar position again etc.
There is no need to tell her off, explanation is far better and will encourage empathy and remorse.

Yes rather than shout which I am ashamed to say has been a bit of a default I did this time sit her down to explain, she knew she had done wrong which is why she lied to her teacher about the incident as she said did not want to get in trouble.

I think it is the lieing more than anything, just so paranoid I don’t want the type of relationship with her where she can’t or won’t tell me things good or bad.

Hey, I meant do as I say I was no better when mine were 5, it's only through hindsight I say don't shout
All reason can go out the door when they've done something that hurts you.