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My DH needs a kidney and I am hoping to donate to him. He needs to be declared cancer free before he can be considered for a donated in kidney but the signs are looking good.
All being well we will both start the work up later this year but here is the problem. We have had a string of terrible events occur to us as well as his cancer diagnosis. These things have happened over a period of three years and it has broken my mental health entirely and I was as robust an individual as you are ever likely to meet. Each of the the things that have happened on their own would be horrendous but I have also developed a condition that means I am in pain.
In order to donate I have to go through the work up with him and this is a series of health checks, scans, blood tests etc and also a psychological profile to ensure I am fully well and able to donate.
I feel that the pain is driving my anxiety mostly and I have an appointment at the pain clinic but I feel so mentally unwell now after everything that has gone on and the pain that I feel I need to go to the GP for some help/anxiolytics/antidepressants.
I'm scared that if I do though, it will preclude me donating or even entering the work up process as obviously it will flag up.
Does anyone know please if taking drugs for my anxiety would preclude me from donating in a years time or so? I feel like I am on a spike. I feel like I would be letting him down in the most profound way possible but I am really quite ill now. The stress of this is adding to everything else.
DH wants me to go to the GP. There is no coercion or anything like that. He is really worried about me. I am really worried about me.
I feel like I would feel worse being told I can't donate due to my psych profile than I do now though.
If anyone has any experience of this, either as a donor or as a medical specialist, I would be really grateful for responses. My world has semi collapsed as it is and I'm terrified that once I mention this to my GP I have taken away a huge avenue to DH getting well.
I have to go to work in the day but if anyone can offer me insight at least I would know and can make a decision as at the moment it's all guesswork. I will answer any questions in the evenings.
I can't ask DH's consultant as I don't want to alert him to how bad my state of mind is currently. Googling it and all it just says is a comprehensive psychological profile.
I am going to look into other ways of getting well in the meantime.