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My dad keeps making me beg for stuff

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Cribzz · 05/03/2019 17:50

My dad owns his own flat, is able to cook and has money. He lives with his partner who is also able. He is I think 62.

This is more to do with greed.

I started working at a new job last year and there is an Indian lady I am good friends with. She sometimes cooks food for me and brings it in.
Once I gave some to my dad and ever since he has been begging me to ask her, says he will pay her to make it ext

Her food is nice but it isn’t anything you couldn’t make in the shops futhermore she would never accept money for food because that is how she is.

With the food came the container now he keeps begging me to ask her to get some more containers “since she gets them free” from her daughters work

She has her own family who need this stuff and it’s embarrassing what he is asking me to do. It’s literally every time I speak to him
“Has your friend got any containers”
“Has she made any curry”

Even her daughter gets packed up butters and stuff because of where she works and I brought him some once as it was given to me and I didn’t want it and he is begging for those

On top of all this is he always asking me about how many tips I made or how much money I got left

It’s pissing me off and making me not want to tell him anything

Am I unreasonable and moany or would this annoy you as well?

I’m 26

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LovingLola · 05/03/2019 17:51

Stop telling him.

iklboo · 05/03/2019 17:52

Do you live with him? If not tell him she's left.

Walnutwhipster · 05/03/2019 17:52

Just dont pass on the requests. Do you live at home?

WarpedGalaxy · 05/03/2019 17:54

He can’t make you beg her. Tell him you asked and she said no.

emilybrontescorsett · 05/03/2019 17:54

Yanbu.
Say to him " Dad, I'm not asking her to cook for you, she is far too busy for that. "
Or
"No she can't get any more containers."

Ragwort · 05/03/2019 17:55

Can’t you just laugh it off & change the subject ‘sorry Dad, the curry was a one off made for me .... now how’s you football team doing’?

ideasofmarch · 05/03/2019 17:56

Just tell him that she's left and you don't see her any more. Hopefully that will shut him up.

HollowTalk · 05/03/2019 18:04

Yeah I'd say she moved to another job and you don't see her any more. You could say she left because people kept asking her for free food!

What are these containers he's banging on about?

Cribzz · 05/03/2019 18:14

No I live alone

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Cribzz · 05/03/2019 18:16

I think I will
They are just standard containers

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Winterfellismyhome · 05/03/2019 18:18

He can buy those containers from costco if he wants them so badly

HollowTalk · 05/03/2019 18:20

Get him these for his birthday.

FurrySlipperBoots · 05/03/2019 18:26

Handle it like you would with a child who keeps pestering:

1st time of asking - clear, reasonable explanation as to why you're not going to do that

2nd time of asking - hard eye contact and a short, firm reiteration of why you're not going to do that, ending with making it clear he's not to ask you again

3rd and subsequent times of asking - ignore completely

Unless he has some sort of mental disability there's no reason he can't understand and accept this approach.

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