Hello all, this is a bit of a whirlwind of a post but here goes. I recently found out we’re expecting our first child, currently 14 weeks. I decided at 10 weeks to tell close/immediate family, when I did so I got a very sour reaction from my cousin who at the time was 7 months pregnant. I was told by her “your only a child, I hate how kids think they can have kids” ... “ you need to talk it threw with your partner and make a decision whether to terminate or not as it’s not ideal for you” well... as you could imagine this totally got my back up. My self and my partner are both aged 25, he will be 26 in a few weeks time. We have been together for 3 years and are also engaged. For our age we both have great careers with a great income and we also have our own home which we’ve been living in for a whole year now. My cousin is 26 so not much older than me at all and her and her partner aren’t living together, since hearing her reaction I instantly thought how sour and petty can you be. I decided to keep my distance as I do not need that negativity! Since the start of my pregnancy I have had really bad morning sickness I thought it would ease but my gp has confirmed I have hyperemesis gravidarum... the day before her baby shower I was admitted into hospital due to dehydration so I made her aware I was to ill to attend but sent my presents with family members. Again I received petty snappy comments from her saying “those who attend are who the baby needs the most” this really hurt me :( So fast forward we’re now at 14 weeks and my partner and I decided on a time to announce our pregnancy via a cute baby reveal.. the morning of our announcement we found on social media that she had gone into labour early and had her baby... what a gorgeous baby he is absolutely perfect so in love!!! I decided to speak to my partner and explained to him I want to wait a few days I don’t want it to come across as I’m taking the shine away from her and her gorgeous new arrival.. I’ve sent text messages and calls and haven’t received anything back I’ve sent comments on her social media and she is replying to everyone else apart from me. I am now stuck in a situation I don’t know how to handle it’s now been 3 days and my partner and his family are eager to make it public as it’s their first grand child too but I’m worried of her reaction and with the sickness and very demanding job I don’t have the time or the emotions for more comments from her and it’s now also coming from her parents. My partner and his family do not understand my concerns and now it’s causing a atmosphere at home and I don’t know what else to do.