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Anyone's child have to be resuscitated at birth......

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FrumpyKnickers · 05/03/2019 11:36

And did it affect the child's development.My 10 year old has slight autism and dyspraxia he also needs help with organisation for example I have to take out his books for homework and literally sit with him till it's done also he needs a lot of help with it.He struggles with buttons on school shirt he is very innocent for his age he gets anxious very easily. He was late meeting probably all his milestones ,he has trouble with sh sounds,he is awaiting an operation for his heart and asked me the other day if he was going to die I told him of course not the doctors have done the op on plenty of kids.
it breaks my heart he could be thinking like this.🙁 Am I to blame maybe if I pushed harder he would of been out and breathing normally at birth and have no problems now.

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Inniu · 05/03/2019 11:40

My son has ASD, dyspraxia, ADHD and he did not need any resuscitation at birth. I was in Labour for less than an hour and he was born with no complications so don’t blame yourself.

One of my daughters was resuscitated but has no additional needs.

LIZS · 05/03/2019 11:42

Ds has dyspraxia and was on a resuscitaire for a few minutes after being delivered with the cord around his neck, although his apgar scores were good

ArnoldBee · 05/03/2019 11:44

Yes and yes nearly 21. No issues identified whatsoever and he was in Scubu with a feeding tube and bubble wrap.

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cestlavielife · 05/03/2019 11:45

It may be that the underlying condition which led to resuscitation is causing the issues.. .. or the lack of oxygen. It it doesn't really matter as you just need to get the right support in place to help him.

If he is anxious ask hospital to arrange for him to talk with a play specialist about the operation.
If you are anxioustalk to someone too . It will help.

cestlavielife · 05/03/2019 11:47

Bit in no way is it your fault ! Please talk to someone so you can move forward and not ruminate on the birth..you have a lovely son and need to be positive

Bigonesmallone3 · 05/03/2019 11:50

Baby was resuscitated and spent a small amount of time in scbu..
Absolutely fine developmentally..

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 05/03/2019 11:52

DS's heart stopped before birth, his Apgar scores were 0. It took them 12 minutes to get his heart going again and he was in hospital for a month despite being full term. He has no issues.

EducatingArti · 05/03/2019 11:52

I had to be resuscitated at birth over 50 years ago. ( breach birth injection of adrenaline into heart and artificial respiration for over an hour) I think I may have had undiagnosed dyspraxia as a child and I still walk into things and don't have the best awareness of my body in space but it isn't a big issue.
It hasn't affected my ability to learn (attended grammar school, good exam results and science degree) or, as far as I know, my organisational skills. I am neurotypical.
I know of others who had less trauma at birth who have cerebral palsy that affects them significantly!
This is definitely not your fault.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 05/03/2019 11:54

Yes DS was resuscitated at birth. He was delayed walking, delayed speech, delayed toilet training (still hasn’t fully achieved it tbh) awaiting assessment for ASD and ADHD and has a statement of SEN. I never connected any of it to his birth trauma. Not sure there is a connection.

sola82 · 05/03/2019 11:55

DS1s heart stopped before birth and had to be resuscitated following EMCS. He's 7 now and no issues as far as I know.

ItStartedWithAKiss241 · 05/03/2019 11:57

“My 10 year old has slight autism and dyspraxia he also needs help with organisation for example I have to take out his books for homework and literally sit with him till it's done also he needs a lot of help with it.He struggles with buttons on school shirt he is very innocent for his age he gets anxious very easily. ”
I could have written this myself about my DS10 who was resuscitated at birth x

Grandmabooks · 05/03/2019 11:59

My daughter is expecting her 3rd child at the end of May. It's a complicated family situation. She is a single Mum and the father of this baby is not going to be involved. Two daughters, one 11 on Autism spectrum, 2nd daughter 9. The girls rarely see their father. The nine year old is very angry about the new baby and is being vile to her mother saying she hates her and the baby. Screams at her mother most of the time and being very uncoperative. Grandad and I have tried to talk to her and all seems well until she gets home. I am very concerned as the situation is wearing her mother, my daughter, out. Any ideas?

Runningintothesunset · 05/03/2019 12:00

I was resuscitated 30+ years ago, I’ve gone onto lead a normal life - I have a PhD, a career and children. I am pretty clumsy, but I don’t think it’s related - I think that’s just me!

It is absolutely not your fault that he had to be resuscitated. Birth is a dangerous time for mothers and babies

sugarbum · 05/03/2019 12:02

Yes he was. He got stuck as he was an undiagnosed breech. He was very very ill at birth. And then he made a miraculous recovery within a week. He is fine. I suspect he is autistic but his primary headteacher disagreed with every single thing I wrote on the extremely long list of issues we've had. However none of them involved any developmental delay.
Never EVER blame yourself for what happened at the birth. What happened, happened but it was certainly nothing to do with you 'not pushing hard enough'.

leftear · 05/03/2019 12:03

OP and ItStartedWithAkiss, that also sounds just like my DS1. He was born with a cyanising CHD that was not diagnosed for around 24 hours. He had very low sats at dx. He spent several months in PICU and needed ECMO to get him out of theatre.

I have no idea whether his issues have anything to do with his tricky start. He struggles a lot at school, but he is the kindest, gentlest most patient and lovely boy

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FrumpyKnickers · 05/03/2019 12:16

Left ear my son is like yours really kind gentle great manners always hugs n kisses for his old mammy he still sleeps in my bed but I dont mind I enjoy snuggling up to him I'm sure soon enough teenage emotions will catch up with him he'll be too cool to be in mammys bed 😂

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uncomfortablydumb53 · 05/03/2019 12:29

I had a prolapsed cord with DS1 and was rushed to theatre and given an emergency CS under GA to save his life He was out in 6 minutes and needed resuscitation for 4 minutes
He wouldn't feed and ended up being tube fed for 2 weeks in SCBU
He's 25 now and no effects apart from an enlarged nostril from the tube
So so lucky It could've been a different outcome

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