Would you insist 15 year old has a hair cut for college interview

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Nearly 16 year old son has an interview next week for college, to train as a barber.

His own hair is long and unstyled, and grows over his face and eyes. It isn't in a style, its basically an overgrown mullet thats all different lengths.

I want him to have a trim, so that he looks like he has made an effort. Hes totally refusing as he likes it as it is.

My argument is that hes being interviewed to go into the hair industry, but his own is unstyled and scruffy, and makes it look like he doesn't care.

My oh says I should make him, what would others do?

Well, you can’t make him. Just ket him go. If he doesnt get it, it is a lesson in knowing whats required in different jobs.

Could he not tie it back or is it not quite long enough?

Colleges actually don’t care how you look they want people with an interest in the subject.

"Make him"? How?

College won’t care. It’s not usually the people running the course who interview anyway (well not at my college), it’s more just to check he knows what the course entails, what his expectations of college are and whether it’s the right level of course for future plans etc. It’s not like a job interview.

You can't make him get it cut but it won't hurt to remind him that possibly his own hair style or lack thereof might reflect his desire to do this job and may mean he doesn't get it.

Husband thinks I should say he cant see his girlfriend if he refuses to get it cut

Sorry i just realised it is a course not a job!

No I wouldn't, colleges are used to teens!

I really don't think the college will care, tbh.

So he isnt actually interested in hair then...I give him 3 months on the course.

Your husband sounds weirdly controlling tbh.
Teens need to rebel a bit and dodgy (non) haircuts are a harmless way to do that.

The college won't care one bit about his appearance.

He's 15, not 5, and the college won't care. Not letting him see his girlfriend is absolutely ridiculous. What a great way to build resentment over a haircut.

If it's at a college they won't care. If it's an apprenticeship at a barbers he absolutely should as he will be judged on his own styling. You can't make him though.

Let the interviewer tell him? I've often had my hair done by someone who hasn't got much of a hairstyle. If he's that interested in the course he's likely to want to take on his own hair at some point soon.

Your husband is a dick.

He'll either get in or not on the basis of the things he actually says at the interview, not on whether he's been taken to the barber's on pain of not being able to see his girlfriend (who presumably likes his hair as it is). In any case, it'll be clear to them that he's growing his hair out.

I think all teenage boys should have long hair/something like a mohawk at least once in the lead up to their 21st birthday - because if they're anything like my DP, my father, brother. my hairdresser and a good few of my mates, it'll be falling out, never to be seen again, by their 22nd.

He's massively disadvantaging himself by going for an interview looking scruffy. Especially as it's a barber's course!
I don't think you can force him to have a hair cut though. He'll need to learn the hard way that he's much more likely to be successful at interviews etc if he looks well presented and that he has made some effort. Having a decent hair cut is an integral part of looking well presented.

Husband thinks I should say he cant see his girlfriend if he refuses to get it cut

Good grief.

He's FIFTEEN & it's an FE college interview.

You need to work on exercising influence rather than control.