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How would your teenager’s father react to this?

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BertrandRussell · 03/03/2019 15:04

This morning, 18 year old ds said to his dad “Hey, do you want to come to the pub and watch the football with Tom and Jake [best friends] and me?” Dp was a bit taken aback but accepted enthusiastically. Since then he’s asked me several times “Are you sure it’s OK? Does he really want me to come? I would never have done that with my dad!” I assured him it was fine and they’ve gone off together. Would your dp have done this with his dad and would your teenager do this? They have a brilliant relationship and do a lot of things-mostly music related-together. I thinit was going with him and his friends that dp was surprised about.

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Sparklingbrook · 03/03/2019 15:08

Bit similar but DS1 (19) often goes out to the pub with DH and DH's friends if he's home from Uni. They have similar interests (football mainly) I think it's nice.

ItsHardToExplain · 03/03/2019 15:10

I would be suspicious they wanted him there to pay for beer Grin

Sunshinewithshowers123 · 03/03/2019 15:15

I think thats so lovely

cushioncuddle · 03/03/2019 15:16

My son does a lot with his dad. They go to concerts and shopping which is mostly record stores or trainer shops. They will go to the cinema and occasionally they may watch a match together in a pub.
My son has lots of friends and will hang out with them but then every couple of weeks will suggest they do something together. We're lucky. Well my h is lucky. I tag along very occasionally if I'm very lucky.

SenecaFalls · 03/03/2019 15:17

Mine has and does. Not until 21, though, the minimum drinking age in the US.

Spotsbeforemyeyes · 03/03/2019 15:18

Yep. Our eldest ds is 21, they go to the pub, on football jollies and on lads holidays ( football, world cup, euros)

jomaIone · 03/03/2019 15:20

My brother does loads with our Dad. They play golf and go to football matches, nights out and weekend away! Not weird at all and can't see how it ever would be!!

WTBE · 03/03/2019 15:23

Your DPs reaction was really sweet Blush

And its not unusual, in my family and others i know anyway!

Tigger001 · 03/03/2019 15:23

Yeah sounds pretty normal, my brother and father go on footy breaks together Japan, Europe, they go to the match and get pub together, it's great for them. I am always invited but leave them to it.

I think it's a good sign for your hubby that he's a good dad 😃😃

Reaa · 03/03/2019 15:24

I would be suspicious they wanted him there to pay for beer

Same here Grin

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BertrandRussell · 03/03/2019 16:03

Not beer money related Grin - he knows he only has to ask his dad-who is the biggest soft touch ever- and he’d stump up!

He wouldn’t have been surprised if it had just been ds- it was his mates being there too that surprised him. Ds hasn’t been 18 for long-it’s a new phase of life!

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NatashaRomanov · 03/03/2019 16:09

That's really sweet, your DP's reaction!

I hope our girls are willing to do stuff like that once they reach that age!
Our 9-year old currently does Warhammer with her Dad every Sunday, and loves having that time with him. I hope it lasts.

moglovesredroses · 03/03/2019 16:11

Ah that's great! My dh does lots with his dad always has, hopefully ds will be the same.

Janus · 03/03/2019 16:12

Love it! What a great relationship.
My dh and dd (18) went to the pub on Thursday evening as she was having uni worries! Was lovely to see them pop off together for a chat!

DelurkingAJ · 03/03/2019 16:14

My DDad used to go out with my BF and his mates (they roped him in for impromptu cricket etc) and would take now DH to Lords for his Xmas present. Lovely and completely normal to my mind.

fishonabicycle · 03/03/2019 16:15

Both me and husband go to pub with his son (my stepson) and we are all looking forward to taking my son for his first drink when he's 18 (very soon!).

skippy67 · 03/03/2019 16:34

My DS (21) and his dad do lots together. They're season ticket holders for their team, and often do away matches too. Dh will also go to the pub with DS and his mates occasionally. They've also run 10k races and half marathons together. They have a lovely relationship.

notacooldad · 03/03/2019 18:19

Perfectly normal!
My 21 year old nephew calls in several times a week to see his nan and grandad ( my parents). He goes to the Liverpool home games with him and his step dad and go to the pub to watch the away games.

DP often gets invited to gigs with DS and mates. They went to see the vaccines and the Kaiser Chiefs the other week.

kaytee87 · 03/03/2019 18:24

Lovely and hopefully a sign of a close grown up relationship.

Billballbaggins · 03/03/2019 18:25

Aw that’s sweet! It might be a bit odd if they’d randomly invited him out clubbing or something(!) but a day at the pub to watch football is normal definitely. I think at one point or another all of my friends mums (and my own) have come out with our group for a drink. We’re lucky we all have lovely parents, sounds like your DH and son get on well so he’s obviously a lovely parent too.

YesQueen · 03/03/2019 18:40

My dad came to the cinema with me and a friend when we were about 17. He was moping around looking bored, we went to see Hannibal I think. Anyway, turns out he hadn't been to the cinema since the original evil dead came out Blush he ate all my popcorn, loved the film and came home gushing about the sound/seats/screen Grin

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