8 yr old upset about YouTube videos (not momo)

[Mumphineasandferbmadea]

My 8 year old ds was telling me today that he was worried about videos he has seen. I'm very strict with internet use and only allow Netflix kids so asked what it was and where he has seen it thinking it was going to be something about this momo thing as his dad isn't as strict as I am and his parenting method is show them his phone and ignore. Anyway it turns out my ex has been showing him videos where people fall and break their arms he told me their arms "turn the wrong way" and scary clowns jumping out on people and just to top it off someone pulling a maggot out of the roof of their mouth. I asked my older children if this was true and they said he was always showing them that kind of stuff.

I just dont know how to broach it with him. We split 2 years ago due to emotional and sexual abuse and I try to keep my interactions to a minimum. He just ignores me when I do try to talk most of the time anyway or takes it that I want to get back with him (I've told him I cant stand him before and got a txt 5mins later saying he can tell I miss him). God I sound useless. How would you all deal with this?

I just want to know I'm not over reacting about this as I know he will make me feel like I am.

I (think) I would be restricting access.

That's kind of what I was thinking. He had social services involvement a year ago but they pushed for contact to be kept up and the case was dropped. He now sees them one day every other week if that.

Could access happen in a contact centre?

Tell DS and the older ones that it's ok for them to tell their dad that they don't like those videos and they don't want to watch them. Tell them they can say No.

Try and have contact regulated in some way (at a family members house or contact centre?).

I will have talk with them before they see him again. He lives with his mum so there are people about but he just doesn't have a clue. When we were together he was just jealous of them with me and used to try and palm them off to family members so he could have me to himself. So his interactions with them before we split were very limited.

I spoke to ex about it and his reply was "but they're funny" I pointed out that maybe to him they were but not to ds. He then argued that they watch cartoons which sometimes have similar stuff but couldn't see how that was different to a real person. So got nowhere really.