Just lost it with dd11 😩😩😩

[TheFunkyFox]

Honestly she’s pushing it big time lately.

She has been given some steroid nose spray by the doctors before they refer her to the ENT to have her adenoids out.

She did it 4 times yesterday (2 morning 2 night) absolutely fine. This morning she’s completely refused too. She won’t do it point blank. Iv been doing it for her but now she won’t let me near her. She even said after each time that it’s fine and doesn’t hurt!

I’m fuming. It’s taken over an hour to try and get her to do it. Now she’s crying saying she’s never doing it again.

I thought we weren’t over this stupidness taking medication when she was tiny. 😤

My god she still hasn’t done it!!

How long does she need to use the spray for?
Do you not have a hard stare and 'brook no nonsense' voice to deploy?
Seriously though, is there someone else she might listen to - like a granny or grandad? It sounds like you two have got locked into a fight over this.

Bribery

Honestly I try and give her the look and a stern voice and she starts crying! She’s finally done it after 2 hours!!

I dread to think what she will be like as a teenager, she’s such a pain sometimes and so stubborn!

Her dad is in bed on nights else I’d have made him have words but he’s a softy 😩

I bribed her! She had left over birthday cake so I put it in a bowl and said if she didn’t do it I will give it her brother

That’s not bribery. That’s still threatening her. Be upbeat, be positive, be light and breezy. Give her a biscuit or small treat before you do it to distract her.

Does she have a phone? Other tech? If she is responsible enough for this she is responsible enough to self medicate.
Lack of tech is usually an incentive ime.

You gave my sympathy I have a drama llama too, she's 17 and there's still things occasionally which make me think "you're not 2 anymore" and I just walk away.

I think the secret is now don't mention it again, just give her the medication to take later as if nothing happened this morning, even better if you can get DH to give it to her. Don't feed the llamas 😂

She needs to know she wont be referred.

Don't feed the llamas
I would go for bribery too if that would work.
Does she have a favourite treat? I would buy a job lot and say she could have one a day on completion of the nasal spray regime without drama.

Give her a biscuit to distract her? 😂 she’s 11 and nearly as tall as me, I can’t slip it in her milk anymore sadly 😂😩

She’s done it, she won’t do it herself so makes me do it.

I even resorted to showing her pictures of poorly people saying do you think they like having it done?!

🙈

I’m really not patient, it’s my down fall as a parent sadly

If it is any consolation I have lost my shit big time with my DM (89 going on 2) this morning.
Feel crap and am eating a Twix in the garden to calm down

Dont think about what will happen if she doesnt have a dose. Eg she misses this dose it puts back all the others she might not ve able to have the operation etc. That is what makes you lose your shit.

If she is causing a fuss just give her the spray and then say if you need me to do it let me know when you are ready and walk away.
Remove the opportunity for a battle

Well, even my mum at nearly 70 finds it a lot easier to get injections when the nurse distracts her with something. I know it sounds silly but the more you build it up into a huge thing the harder it will be. Even though she’s not a toddler, waving a biscuit around and making a joke about it is one way to get it done.

Again!!!!

This is bloody ridiculous!! 30 mins and still not done it, this is my time when the kids are in bed and she’s messing about!

Howling at "give her a biscuit"! She's not 2

Having had the pleasure of the steroid nasal spray could it be that she can taste it at the back of her throat and it's making her reluctant? I have to use a steroid nasal spray every day but I hate the sensation and aftertaste, so I always have a sweet drink straight after to trick myself that there is no aftertaste.

If she's due to get her adenoids done she could have post-nasal drip and weirdly, some people get very sensitive to tastes at the back of the throat as the steroids start to work and it's a very odd feeling.

Tbh I'd have just said "either let me do it now or I'll ring surgeon on Monday and cancel op"

Then watched her reaction.

If she begs not to cancel op give her 5 mins for meds.

If she said good then you'd know real reason behind refusal and can chat to her about her worries etc.

Loving "don't feed the llamas"

I’m absolutely fuming. She’s woke her younger sister up