Why can I not decide whether or not to have another baby?

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DS is three and I still can't decide. Some days I definitely absolutely don't want another and done days I think I would like one more. DH is pretty ambivalent about it.

Is anyone else on the fence?

I would like another but dnt think we could afford to

I'm so sorry love that's hard

We could definitely afford to

I am in this situation right now.
We have dc1- 9 years, dc2- 3 years.
Dp would love another.
Some days I wake up desperate to start trying for our last. Other days I already feel like my family is complete.
It just a fear of the unknown i think/hope.
I just worry I make the wrong choice for our family

It’s because you’ve left it too long and life is starting to get easier again compared to the crazy days of having a new baby. It makes it daunting to start all over again.

For me it’s financial too. I know I want another child. But another few years of baby/toddler/terrible twos plus more years of paying for childcare put me off a bit. We’re going to just do it anyway because hopefully in a few years time we will have two older kids and a more stable life and won’t be left regretting not having the second one.

Oh my good god I could never have had another one any earlier like this, it would have killed me. For the first eighteen months at least I was one and done for sure.

Plus we couldn't have managed two lots of childcare and I sure as hell am not giving up my job.

I didn't find the newborn days too bad to be honest. The rest of it has been harder!!!