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Earlybird74 · 26/02/2019 08:58

I am looking for advice. I met a sperm donor who tried to help me get pregnant via NI back in 2015 but with no luck. At the same time we both developed very strong feelings for each other and kept on seeing and talking to each other regularly. I have invested a lot of emotional time into him. We are in a long distance relationship of sorts now and we get on really but the big problem I have is that he is continuing to donate his sperm to women he meets on online sites. He is currently active on 4/5 different sites at the moment. He keeps telling me that he will stop his subscriptions and leave it behind when it feels natural to do so but he has told me just recently that a lesbian couple contacted him about getting pregnant. He chats to them at length on WhatsApp. He has done both AI and NI with success in the past. He won’t talk to me about his sperm donation only when I press him for information. Can I trust this man and how can I move forward with this relationship with his sperm donor life aspect a big part of him. I might add that I have told him that I would love to try for a baby again but he is in the middle of talking to these lesbians. Please let me know what your thoughts are and don’t hold back!!!

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averystrangeweek · 26/02/2019 09:44

Google the sunk cost fallacy.

You have invested a lot of emotion into this relationship, and in the meantime, you have wasted years of your life. You need to come to terms with ending this long-distance association and move on.

Earlybird74 · 26/02/2019 10:18

Thanks for responding to my troubles. I have told him in so many words that I want nothing more to do with him and his seedy life which he labels altruism. He can’t have his bread buttered on both sides and he can now do what he likes!!

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averystrangeweek · 26/02/2019 14:32

Draw a line under the whole saga, and find someone who is properly available for a relationship instead. Smile

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Earlybird74 · 26/02/2019 15:13

I have done now. I was trying to hold on to a man that was never mine to hold on to as sad as it seems. Life is too short! We both need closure.

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averystrangeweek · 26/02/2019 18:13
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