Moral High Ground

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Name changed for this as I don’t want it linking to my other accounts as I suspect my ex may try and snoop on me on here. Be warned it’s going to be long and ranty

But is it me or does it fucking suck to take the moral high ground all the time.
Right now I’m feeling like I want to go all Jeremy Kyle style and dish the dirt on my ex publically but I won’t because I don’t want to look trashy and the people who I want to know what a scumbag he is ie his awful fucking family won’t believe me anyway.

I’ve just received a letter which is still keeping me awake now, I’ve not had any sleep about a debt my ex hasn’t paid of course in my name as well as so now if he doesn’t pay it I’ll be the one lumped with it.

So I’m putting it out here, to get it off my chest he was a fucking financial liability, every month we had a new debt that came through the door, he ran them up constantly and hid them from me.
I was the main earner I paid them off as I found out about them but thise were the debts I knew about. The ones I didn’t know about I found out when debt collectors showed up at the door being arseholes to me.

He never kept a job he had 5 jobs in the 5 years I was with him. All of them ended because the ‘business folded’ which was odd because the businesses were still open afterwards so basically he’d been fired for being a lazy prick.

Also for all of these jobs he was served notice but he didn’t tell me he’d been given notice nor look for another job he just came home at the end of the day and was fired.

He was fired from one job for poaching customers from his boss and undercut his bosses prices so he was being paid his wage and then earning on top of that with stolen business.

He cheated on me 3-4 times.

He lied constantly for no reason whatsoever it was almost impulsive.

Now I know you’re all thinking why didn’t I leave him because despite all this he was abusive to me financially, emotionally and occasional more.

He constantly told me what a bad person I was and that no one else liked me. My confidence was so low I didn’t feel like I deserved better. I was ashamed of myself because he told me what an ambarrasment of a person I was constantly.

He was so argumentative if I said ‘isn’t this blue nice’ he would absolutely blow up and scream in my face it was green, storm out doors leave the house for hours on end saying he needed to calm down when I knew full well he’d engineered the entire argument so he could spend some time with ow and it would be my fault.

I could go on and on but I hope you get the gist.

But most fucking annoyingly he managed to look like the victim constantly. When we were with friends he’d act like a baby, and he’d dumb himself down if that makes sense so that people had to help him.
He’d also be super affectionate toward me and people regularly commented I was so lucky to have such a gentle husband

Finally I managed to find the strength to leave and in that time he hasn’t contributed a penny towards the kids. But he posts pictures of himself and the kids all over social and everyone tells him what a wonderful father he is. Some of our old mutual friends too.

Now he’s run up a debt from basically years ago. It was a joint debt (his debt but in joint name) and when we separated we split any remaining debts I paid off all the debts I took on he hasn’t paid off the ones he took on so now it looks like I’m going to be stuck paying them off too.

So I am still 3 years on paying debts he created, working full time, paying for every single thing for the kids, and the occasions he sees them he posts pictures of them on social media and gets told what an awesome dad he is.

I’m not his ‘friend’ on social media but all his posts are open and I just feel so much taking the moral fucking low ground and writing underneath, this shit bag abused me for years, ran up debts, won’t pay a penny towards his kids and is a lying cheating bastard.

I know I should ignore and I will but it’s so hard to stay quiet when I know he’s telling everyone we separated because I had an affair (I didn’t and I haven’t had a single partner or date in the three years we’ve been separated) and that he’s Mr wonderful.

Please feel free to tell me what a dick he is or to rant away about things you take the moral high ground on when you really don’t want to.

That surrounds horrendous OP. I’m expected to take the moral high ground with an ex-DP too, why? Just to save face and look like the bigger person? I wish I could just send him a very sweary message.

I know me too, but no doubt my ex would end up using it to his advantage and saying what a psycho ex I was. I hate that he wraps everyone around his finger and is seen as this wonderful gentle spirit, while I’m seen as some sort of screaming banshee. Maybe I’m not but at least that how he told me everyone saw me.

There were a few nice friends when we split up the ones we saw more regularly told me they thought he was awful for years and they were glad I was rid of him. The ones we didn’t see so much but kept more in contact with through social media and meeting every 8 months or so (so only really had social media to go on) have all remained friend with him and think he’s wonderful.

One of my friends told me after we split up. (We split up in the end when I caught him bringing someone back to the house because he didn’t think I was in and I’ll be honest I knew he’d do it and pretended I was away for the night to catch him out.)

He wrote a post about how we had been through so much together and though we weren’t together anymore we would have a beautiful friendship raising our children in a compassionate and nuturing way. (Prick) the whole time he was leaving me pennyless, running up debts and seeing the woman I caught him bringing back to my house.

But of course everyone on social media who read his version told him what an honest and wonderful person he was and that he was the ex everyone dreams of so selfless to put the kids first