First world problem I know ...

[frazzledmumoftwo]

And a very middle class first world problem at that .....

DD10 and DS12 are fantastic. They live with me, but see their dad every 2nd weekend and half holidays. Their dad (my fairly difficult ExH) has just taken them skiing for half term.

DS12 has Aspergers and goes to a special school.

Both kids are nice, polite, helpful, loyal. DD is desperate for things to go smoothly when they are with Daddy.

Daddy is a very good skier, and 'expects' DS and DD to be good skiers too, even though DS is Special Needs, and DD can just be quite cautious.

I've just found out not only did Ex lie about where they were staying, but

(1) at one point Ex shouted at DS to 'fuck off' (when DS was trying to stand up for DD who couldn't manage with the level of difficulty of skiing Ex was taking them on) and

(2) at another point Ex ridiculed DD for being a 'fucking idiot' for accidentally getting too far forward in a lift queue.

I know people will think I am getting upset over something very minor, but WHY treat children like this?

No, I'd be furious! Poor kids

I don't think thats minor. Its very upsetting. I presume they told you that themselves when they goot home. He sounds horrible. If you call him out on it he may make their life difficult on future visits. Could you teach them to say l dont like you swearing at me?
Or could you tell him that if dc tell their teacher he may be in trouble and try and frighten him a bit.
Its very tough on the dc.

I'd be livid !! I swear at times but would never tell my children to f'ing anything ... really terrible behaviour on your exH part
The lying would irk me too - what was the point?'

A pig is a pig is a pig.

That's not on. Doesn't matter if it was in a tent in Skegness or in an exclusive skiing resort, a holiday is supposed to be fun and being told to fuck off isn't fun, especially for children.