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Sending DC to school with a cold

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alternateuniverse · 24/02/2019 21:07

DS2 is tired and very pale. Constant runny nose. Asleep at 6.30. He has had me carry him and has been sat on my lap lots today. I've literally been blowing his nose every 2 minutes. Am I awful to send him to school. I really can't take time off work. Do lots of parents pack DC off to school like this?

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NoKnit · 24/02/2019 21:44

You can't send him to school in the state you described. If he asked you to carry him to bed he is clearly unwell. If you can't take the day off then his Dad has to, simple as that.

Darkbaptism · 24/02/2019 21:47

It wouldn’t be fair on your DS at all and of course the other children/staff.

wendz86 · 24/02/2019 21:48

Not in that state . I’d send mine if they were sniffly but still getting on a playing etc as normal .

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RoseMartha · 24/02/2019 21:53

He sounds a bit too poorly to go to school if he just wants cuddles all day.

My dc go to school with colds, but not if they are listless like you have just described.

I am part time work wise and had to swap my days a few weeks ago and then make time up for dc having time off for a heavy cold.

JustTwoMoreSecs · 24/02/2019 21:58

With a cold yes, not with what you describe!

DinosApple · 24/02/2019 22:03

Cold as in snotty and a bit under the weather when they wake up, but reviving after food. No temperature. Yes.

Under the weather and pale all day. Temperature or not, no.

Mine are usually running around all day and only sit still for long periods of time if they are properly unwell.

Imperfectsusan · 24/02/2019 22:04

No you can't.

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alternateuniverse · 24/02/2019 22:05

Crap. I really can't take time off. I feel awful for him, I've had a fuzzy head all afternoon which I assume he does too which must be miserable for a little one. He hasnt been like that the whole day, has been doing that kiddy thing of perking up then flopping.
I was hoping replies would say that just how it is when parents work.

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Grosserygangrule · 24/02/2019 22:05

Not as you described, ds has loads of colds snotty, but running around and eating fine, your ds sounds a lot more unwell than that

smartiecake · 24/02/2019 22:06

No of course you cant send him to school if he is poorly like that.

Drogosnextwife · 24/02/2019 22:06

No I don't think he should be sent to school.

Smoggle · 24/02/2019 22:06

What do you expect him to do at school if he needs to sleep and be cuddled/carried Confused

SleepingStandingUp · 24/02/2019 22:14

Sorry OP, if he's like that in them ironing. He needs to be home. Is Dad on the scene? Could he take him?

golddigga · 24/02/2019 22:14

Oh you're one of THOSE parents... do you send your child in to school less than 48 hours after d and v too?

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 24/02/2019 22:17

No, this is not “how it is when parents work”. I’m going to troll out that old line, “school is not childcare”. If your child is that ill, he will not benefit in any way from the day’s education and will just spread his germs.

MrsPworkingmummy · 24/02/2019 22:18

Please DO NOT send your son in. It's really not fair on the other students and staff, let alone your poor boy.

Holidayshopping · 24/02/2019 22:19

That really isn’t normal behaviour for a cold!

No-I wouldn’t send them in like that.

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alternateuniverse · 24/02/2019 22:28

I would of course choose to stay home and cuddle him. Im in bed next to him now. My work is on a rolling month, could be let go this week. Was trying to gauge how pragmatic others are in case I'm too tired to judge properly.

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Daffydillo · 24/02/2019 22:29

From a teachers perspective, please don’t send him in. It makes for a really miserable day for a child who isn’t well, easy to spread around the whole class and of course the staff working with him. This year I have caught every bug the children have.
I’m also a working parent so completely understand the childcare dilemma.

SleepingStandingUp · 24/02/2019 22:29

OP is Dad around at all? Could he fetch him and take him to his?

HeartStrings · 24/02/2019 22:38

I'm strict when it comes to time off school. If they have a cold I give calpol and send them in. However, If they're sitting down not wanting to play or move all day and just want cuddles then they stay off. My DC are quite energetic so for them to be sitting down barely moving and looking pale is a sign straight away that they're too poorly to go to school.

I hope your poor DC gets better soon

VelvetPineapple · 24/02/2019 22:44

I was hoping replies would say that just how it is when parents work
Sorry but it sounds like you just want people to justify your decision to send a sick child to school. If he’s as poorly as you describe then he’ll have an utterly miserable day. I agree with the pp who said school is not just there to provide childcare.

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alternateuniverse · 24/02/2019 22:49

Energy wise he has been a mix, playing then looking exhausted. He has eaten reasonably well but he is definitely pale. Sorry to have ignored questions but there isn't anyone else to look after him.
Im not sure in hindsight it was helpful to ask when options are limited. Fingers crossed a good night's sleep helps him.

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alternateuniverse · 24/02/2019 22:51

Sorry but it sounds like you just want people to justify your decision to send a sick child to school. yes I guess I was probably hoping I'd feel less guilty. But also I just wasn't sure.

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SleepingStandingUp · 24/02/2019 22:53

OP even if you take him in, it sounds like school will be calling you back pretty quickly if he's exhausted and listless at school