3rd DC - yay or nay

[leapingluna]

Does anyone have any tales of deciding to have a DC3 when they previously were settled with 2?

For background, I'm a SAHM to DD 4 and DS 6. DD starts school in 2020, and I'm planning on retraining to go back into work. I don't need to work for us to be financially solvent, DH earns enough that we get by and manage to save a little so we're in a fortunate position in that respect. We'd have to get a new car, we'd have to move house (which we have to do anyway, but it would be much more urgent with DC3), and we'd have less fun money. We'd also have to get a new car seat/baby crap because I passed everything we had on after DD was done with it because I was so sure we were Done With Babies.
This month I've had a bit of a pregnancy scare and it's making me reevaluate how Done With Babies I actually am. DH thinks we'd be insane. I think it would delay my retraining by a year, if at all as I wouldn't be able to start my course until 2020 even if I get in on my first attempt, and if I timed it for when potential DC3 would be 3, we'd have minimal childcare costs because they'd be entitled to 30 free hours a week in term time.

Apologies for the brain fart here. I just don't know what to think and the later my period gets (2 BFNs so far so pretty sure it's just my body being a dick) the more it's bothering me.

I could have written your post OP.
We had DC3 when she decided she was coming ( I m/c 1 and it took ages to get pg again). DH said we had a DD and DS and didn't need anymore, but I wanted a third. She is 7 now, and the other two are 11 and 13. She makes our family complete.
Go for it I say..

Yes. I was settled with two then suddenly changed my mind. Turns out DH had always wanted a third. Was pregnant two months later and he's now 4 months old

I’ll say no. More stress, less money, need to move sooner, less time with the dc you already have etc etc etc.

It’s hard! DD would be such a good big sister, but eesh at the idea of going back to the baby - and need for baby proofing - stage. All the little Playmobil and Lego bits 😖

I have so many reasons to say “No, don’t be crazy” but I still have this feeling. Probably not helped by DH and I both coming from families of 5 and seeing friends having 3.

We’re done at 2 and I’ve been a bit broody lately. I know what it is - because I know we’re done, my brain can conveniently overlook all the hard shit and all the logical reasons why we’re done. If I actually did get pg, I’d be singing a different tune...!