Pregnant at 38

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Hi girls

Just found out I'm pregnant at 38. I already have 14 year old twins and my partner isn't wanting me to go through with the pregnancy. He already has a 4 year old son and seems to be of the opinion that he is a priority and basically saying any money or love is for him only. I can't get my head round this. I had two babies and was capable of loving both of them and providing for them. I don't know what to do and can see me having this baby or babies! On my own. Does anyone have any advice?

Your DP should have worn a condom or had a vasectomy then?!

Do what you truly want. If you want your baby then have it, he may come around but he may not. Good luck

Your body, your choice. Your OH doesn’t sound all that great tbh and in your shoes I’d bin him off and have the baby!

Do you want to keep this baby?

I was on the mini pill but stupidly didn't use any other protection when I had a uti which was making me sick. I feel I'm 38 and not getting any younger so I do want to have the baby as this may be my last chance. Just worried about doing it all without help.

Keep it. You want to.

Your DP sounds like a dick tbh.

"Hi Girls"

@MmaMakutsi Oh ffs what's wrong with OP saying "Hi Girls?" This is Mumsnet so although there are men on here, it is predominantly women! 🤷🏼‍♀️ Fact

Yeah sorry wasn't trying to alienate anyone by saying hi girls was just an opening really. Sorry if I offended anyone.

Tough one OP, sending a hand hold. Will you be OK with a 15 year age gap though? My auntie did this and used to complain all the time that she’d been raising kids for 30 years and my mum would say ‘well you have!’ 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ Totally your choice and do what you think is best but it will be hard to go back to the baby stage now your twins are probably looking after themselves. Good luck.

Have the baby, don't be talked into a termination if that's not what you want. What do your older children think?

Twins
Always twins

Hobs lots of people have twins. Some people even have more that one set.

Hi I'm 46 and 6weeks preggers!!¡ My first child is 25!!!!!

Agree with PP. Take your DP out of the equation and consider if you feel ready and capable of looking after a new baby alone. Think about the support network you currently have, your finances and your existing DC as well as where you are right now. If you can love and look after a new baby then go for it. Don't terminate just because your DP says so as you may regret it.

Thanks for you comments everyone. I just feel like this may be my last chance and my twins are being very supportive.

Do what you wouldn't regret in a year's time. Imsure you will have lots if support and a way to manage. You looked after twins years ago! Two babies at the one time. I take my hat off to all mammas 🥰 im sure you have a lot to think about.

My DD has 2 older siblings, 12/13 year age gap. It worked surprisingly well. No squabbles over toys and built in baby sitters. I think our older kids (mostly) love having a little sister.
In your shoes I think I would keep the baby. Good luck with whatever choice you make.