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Why can't I pull myself together?

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Snugasabuginagrosnug · 24/02/2019 09:10

It's a lovely day, I have a beautiful DD, wonderful DH and DDog and I want to have a productive day with lots of playtime for DD but I just feel so tired and searching for the energy.

I gave up a career as head of a corporate department so that I could stay with her until she's a little older (currently ten months) so I am used to long hours and a long commute, emails until late at night etc but this is somehow more tiring! DD is still up a lot in the night which doesn't help and has some health problems which are a huge worry to me although they don't affect her at all at the moment (hopefully never will)

DH mentioned and he's right that I often feel more like this during school holidays as there are no baby groups etc but it's not an excuse as there's loads we can go and do. We'll go for a nice walk after her nap and maybe swimming

But I feel like I keep trying to summon up more energy and it's just not there like I'm out of petrol! Help. There's loads to be done, sorting through cupboards, dog training, cooking, cleaning etc - I want to be a fun interactive mum and then get on with some stuff to show her a good example while she plays in her pen but I am struggling to find the get up and go which I used to have so much of

More coffee?!

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Prokupatuscrakedatus · 24/02/2019 10:32

No help from me, but I remember that feeling (my children are teens / young adults). What got me down was (apart from lack of sleep and potential health problems - thyroid and vitamines in my case) the unstructured day and the boredom. Yes, there are things you think you ought to do, like sorting warderobes, but who cares if it is done or not? or if it is done now? And if you are a person that performs best under pressure - the pressure simply is not there. So it is just to fill time and get you over the day.
Coffee did not help - I went back to work after a year with every child I had.
(Sorry for my English - it seems to be off today)

EspressoX10 · 24/02/2019 10:39

This sounds very familiar to me.
I went through the exact same phase in my life.

I also had thyroid and vitamin D issues, but it was more a mindset problem.

I think it can happen when you stop working and have no deadlines or hard, set in stone, schedule to follow.

In my case, I realised that when the adrenaline dropped, I crashed along with it and just felt permanently tired/lethargic and demotivated for no particular reason.

What helped me was to fake it until I made it - start the day off mimicking an energy I didn't feel and attacking projects straight away. Eventually it did come naturally and I realised I wasn't faking it anymore.

Exercise, vitamins and water also helped, but it was mainly a mind shift.

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