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WWYD Dilemma please be honest

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DpWm · 24/02/2019 08:09

Hello.
I went to Brighton this week and found this really pretty vintage necklase (one of a kind) and it was just so beautifully made, a lovely bird hanging on a fine chain, I bought it for myself as a treat, not that I need any more jewellery!

I'm seeing a good friend in 2 weeks, we tend to only see each other once a year so it's become a sort of tradition that we give each other a gift or little something for Christmas/birthdays that we missed, when we meet.

I keep looking at the necklase thinking she would really really love it (our style is quite similar), and I can't think of anything else to get for her, I'd have to go shopping anyway but obviously I really love it too. I also realise I have many necklaces equally nice, but If I give it to her will I be forever missing it!?

What would you do?

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Magmatic80 · 24/02/2019 08:12

I’d give it to my friend. It’s lovely giving and receiving gifts that are perfect

Bowchicawowow · 24/02/2019 08:13

Keep it. Why give it to her and deny yourself something you love?

MadisonAvenue · 24/02/2019 08:16

I’d keep it if I loved it that much.

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GodolphianArabian · 24/02/2019 08:21

I'd keep it and buy something else. She has no knowledge of its existence and isn't going to miss it. I'm sure you can buy her something suitable in the next two weeks.

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DpWm · 24/02/2019 08:22

It's true I do love it but there's that guilt that I know I don't really need more jewellery, and I really know it's perfect for her too.

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Redwinestillfine · 24/02/2019 08:23

Will she really like it and wear it loads? If so give it to her. It's a lovely gesture and those ' I saw this and thought of you' are the best gifts. However if you are giving it her because hers is the next birthday and you don't have anything else in then that's a mistake. Be sure she'll love it otherwise you have given away something you would wear loads to potentially be put into a jewelry box and forgotten about.

claraschu · 24/02/2019 08:25

Maybe there is another necklace in your box that you could give her, which she would like just as much.

IncrediblySadToo · 24/02/2019 08:28

Do you have something else in your collection that she’d like?

Unless I knew she’d love it WAY more than me I’d look for something else. However, that’s based on me being UBER fussy and very very very rarely finding something I love.

ThanosSavedMe · 24/02/2019 08:29

Are you looking for permission to keep a necklace that you bought?

If you like it and would miss it if you gave it away, then keep it.

Do you really need a bunch of strangers to tell you it’s ok?

Bowchicawowow · 24/02/2019 08:30

I think women are conditioned to believe they should always be selfless and to deny yourself is virtuous. There should be no dilemma. Keep it. Enjoy it. You love it. But your friend something else that’s lovely. Feel no guilt.

Insomnibrat · 24/02/2019 08:30

Honestly you should keep it.

There's every chance she won't love it quite as much as you and it'll end up discarded at the bottom of her jewellery box whereas you already treasure it.

MrsJayy · 24/02/2019 08:31

I would keep it you clearly love it, just get her something else else.

Awrite · 24/02/2019 08:38

You know you love it. You don't know she would love it. Keep it.

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DpWm · 24/02/2019 08:43

Are you looking for permission to keep a necklace that you bought?
Grin I guess so

Mostly "keep" replies then! Thank you

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AlpacaPicnic · 24/02/2019 10:09

Can you go back to the shop, or order a similar one from them online? Then you can keep your lovely one and both of you can have a lovely thing :)

TodoDoingDone · 24/02/2019 10:12

Keep this one and get her something else that's lovely!

MiddleClassProblem · 24/02/2019 10:13

I mean... no one really needs any jewellery so I’m not sure that’s a reason to not keep it.

Oldraver · 24/02/2019 10:14

I would keep it and buy something similar. How much was you wanting to spend as i have recently seen a whole range of lovely animal jewelry

grinningcheshirecat · 24/02/2019 10:58

Can you post a picture? Maybe someone can find something similar, but new.

I'd say keep it. She might not love it as much as you do.

WoollyMummoth · 24/02/2019 11:06

Definitely definitely definitely keep it!You obviously love it. Don’t torture yourself by giving it away. If she wears it all the time it’s a constant reminder that it should be round your neck and if she doesn’t you’ll resent her for not loving it as much as you do. Keep it and get her something else. oh and did I say....keep it!

whyamisoconfused · 24/02/2019 11:24

Definitely give it to your friend. The joy of giving totally outweighs the joys of keeping.

WutheringTights · 24/02/2019 11:30

What's your budget? Check out Alex Monroe for really lovely stuff that sounds similar, but quite pricey.

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