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Very defensive partner.

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ANO123 · 23/02/2019 22:32

Hi everyone.

Has anyone else got a very defensive partner? I feel like I can't say anything to mine without him acting as though I'm verbally attacking him. He then starts to turn everything back on me.... Name calling, slagging off my family, telling me that I'm nothing without him. I'm so sick of it.
I love him but he's only ok if everything is going his way or if we're doing what he wants to do. Anything I say that is slightly negative about him is met with a load of abuse.

Can anyone relate?

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Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 23/02/2019 22:33

My exh was like this.....

Singlenotsingle · 23/02/2019 22:34

Tell me again, WHY do you love him? He doesn't sound very loveable to me.

DramaAlpaca · 23/02/2019 22:36

No, I can't relate to that. I'm sorry, but that's not a normal way to behave towards someone you are in a relationship with. He is being abusive towards you and you are worth more than that

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kateclarke · 23/02/2019 22:39

He sounds horrible, can you get rid?

tobypercy · 23/02/2019 22:41

www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a22660612/signs-of-emotional-abuse/

GlitterPixie · 23/02/2019 22:42

Nope I can’t relate to that at all I wouldn’t be with someone who behaved like that

Arowana · 23/02/2019 22:46

He doesn’t sound defensive - he sounds aggressive.

Chelseajunior · 23/02/2019 22:46

Emotional abuse.
Get rid.. Easier said than done though.

Faster · 23/02/2019 22:49

I can relate. My ex was like this. Every suggestion I mde was met with a No. even suggestions about what to have for tea. Nothing was ever right or good enough for him. Utter cunt. He would spin what I said round and round and use it against me. I kicked him out after I found him swapping phone numbers with escorts/prostitutes.

MistressDeeCee · 24/02/2019 01:34

Boring, and tiresome. That kind of rude, antagonistic person, I just don't see as necessary to life. I mean what's loveable about putting up with all that?

I've seen people waste years of their life with this type. In different ways they have a need to 'win'. What's the point?

When someone shows you they're disrespectful and unpleasant there has to be a will that yeah, if you split it may he hard and you'll miss them until you get over them. But you won't actually die for lack of them.

After all what an absolute nightmare it would be growing old with someone like that by your side.

DioneTheDiabolist · 24/02/2019 01:38

I can relate OP. He's now my Ex.

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