WWYD - neighbours smoking weed

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I'm sure I've seen a similar thread but can't remember the consensus.

I live in a semi-detached house in a naice, family area. My next door neighbours (attaches) are a family with two teenage sons.

I've noticed a strong smell of weed a few times in the last few months, in the garden eg if we are out there or have our kitchen doors open. We've just got home having left the windows of the living room, front and back bedrooms on the latch (so not even wide open) and as soon as we parked up in the drive I could smell the stench of weed, and the hallway/living room/front and back bedrooms all stink of it. Including my 3 year old son's bedroom. And our bedroom where soon our newborn will be sleeping as I'm 40 weeks pregnant.

I've closed all the windows now. The smell will go, obviously.

Should I say anything? I think it's actually the mum of the family (and probably one of the teenage sons too) as when DH went over there once to discuss diy work we had going on, when she answered the door the whole house stank of it. It seems to have today come out of the parents' bedroom window as we noticed that was wide open. She's a heavy smoker otherwise, but weirdly I very rarely notice the smell of cigarette smoke; I guess it's not as pungent.

I don't care what they do in their house, they seem nice enough people and were very accommodating when we had some noisy building work going on. But I don't want my own house to stink of it, nor have to have my windows right shut at all times.

I'd ask them where they got it

I would live and let live.

I don't think you can do anything about it without ww3. They can't control the wind or where the smell drifts. It sucks but you have to either live with it, find another smell to put over it, or move and hope the same problem doesn't arise.

My neighbour smokes weed, I hate it in the summer as he sits outside drinking and smoking weed and generally just being a loud knob. I just close the windows,curse his existence and sometimes resort to putting white noise on so I don’t have to listen to any of his billy bullshitting (he is regularly joined by his friends).

Am I missing something? Live and let live? Isn’t it still illegal?! Wtf. Op shouldn’t have to have that nasty smell in her house! Around her children.

Post a note requesting they smoke it bloody elsewhere! Cheek on toast! Op should not have to put up with smelly drug use!

I was a chronic smoker of weed for near on a decade, 2 joints before I could function in the morning, could never smell it before, now I have given up I can smell it everywhere x

Neighbours both smoke it, I'm trying not to be a hypocrite and get too pissed of with them x

Thanks Poppylizzierose I thought maybe I was a huge prude! It's the stench in my house as you say. If I could only smell it outside then meh. But in all my rooms, even though the windows were only on the latch!

negomi90 before we moved here we lived in a less naice area and our neighbours behind us smoked a lot of weed, but the smell was only ever in the garden, at the bottom end as well, so I never would've said anything. This is because it's in my house really.

It's hard though as otherwise they seem very considerate. When their son had a Halloween party last year (on a week night) they popped over before it started to warn us and assured the music would be off by 10:30pm, which it was. Couldn't fault them at all. We also very rarely hear from them, they're not noisy at all.

I guess they probably haven't realised how much the smell drifts. They must only open the windows to smoke their weed as I never notice the cigarette smoke, except when they're sat in the garden (and I would never say anything about that anyway).

I live above weed smokers and it's horrible.

The smell is so strong I wake up with headaches and nausea. Can't do anything to help either as it comes through the floor boards from their rooms and through the windows from their terrace.

You have my sympathy OP it's horrible.

We had this with our neighbours. The parents were out a lot so the teenage sons used to have all their mates round to smoke weed in the shed, which was next to our garden fence. The smell then wafted all over the garden and up into my then 1yo's bedroom.

My DH went round and told the teenage sons that if they carried on he would tell their parents, and then the police. They were actually quite nice kids and found somewhere else to smoke their weed stopped.

beela we are convinced it's the mum (together with the older teenage boy!).

Would be easier if it was the teenagers as you say!

Would the police be interested I wonder? Smoking weed is illegal isn’t it?
And would social services be interested if there are children in the house where there are drugs?

^no

Poptartpoptart I can't imagine they would be interested in smoking weed for personal use to be honest? And I would never report them, they seem like perfectly decent people. I just really begrudge them stinking my house out!!! Their children are approx 15-18 so not little by any means.

If they’d been considerate like you’ve said before I would just ask nicely. It is a really strong smell. Just go down the smell route rather than the moral one police ect. As they won’t do anything and your neighbors won’t thank you! Might make situation worse and if they’re mostly good...

I’d think a box of chocolates and some suggestions www.google.com/amp/s/www.civilized.life/articles/how-to-hide-the-smell-of-weed-like-a-pro/amp.html

Then give it a few days, you can’t really crack down hard on it, but you could explain your point of you.

Let us know how it goes and don’t sit on the fence sort it out x

Isn’t it still illegal?!

The Police are hardly going to be bashing down their door for a few joints though.

We had the same issue, neighbours smoking in their house every night which resulted in my house being filled with the smell. I also have young children so I contacted the police online, they where interested and helped.

Is it rented or owed do you know? If rented the police can write to their landlord and they can demand they stop (or leave). It's an offence for the landlord to know about it and not take action.

The police can talk to the neighbours directly but would have had to say they received a complaint so they would likely know it was you. This is my local police force anyway.
Hope you get it sorted it's not nice at all.

Thank you all for the suggestions. DH is going to mention the smell next time he bumps into them outside the front, rather than going round there. Although he said if it happens again soon, he may pop round. He's built up a rapport with them more than I have, as he project managed our house renovation last year so went round a few times (with bottles of wine!) to deal with any issues (there weren't many, it was one particular thing to do with our new flat roof).

It's definitely owned, I've chatted to the mum in the past and it was her mum's house, obviously left to them. We are definitely going to focus on the smell coming in to our house element as that's what bothers me really. I couldn't give two figs otherwise!

I do find it...unusual, if it is in fact the mum (and we're sure it is). Mainly because of the timing of it. The other week it was about 3pm on a Thursday afternoon when the smell came into the kitchen because I had a friend over and our boys were playing in the garden with the doors open! And then yesterday, we got home around 4pm ish so again quite early. She doesn't work, I know that she gave up work when her second son was born as they were very close in age and unplanned. Her eldest son (who has smoked it in the garden with friends on occasion) wouldn't be there at that time as he has an apprenticeship so is out in the daytime in the week anyway. So I think it is just her a lot of the time!

Our ex-neighbour used to smoke weed right outside our kitchen window every morning. It also drifted up into the bathroom above, so you couldn't escape while getting ready.

I left it a while, but ended up getting so fed up I went out and asked her to please move further down the garden to smoke, as it was coming into our house. To my amazement, she agreed! Do as they sound reasonable, I would just ask.

And no, the police definitely won't care about recreational drug use in a family home with teenagers 😆 If they start dealing you might stand a chance of them looking into it.

We have had the same issue - I emailed 101 and explained that we had a newborn and toddler and it was filling our bedrooms and living space - Giving dates and times over a month.

I would say it was antisocial behaviour. Everyone should be able to enjoy their home.

A week or so later a community police officer went round to have a chat. I can't say it's stopped completely but very rare that we smell it now so it doesn't bother us so much.

Worth a shot. They did call before and were concerned about the children having to put up with it in their bedrooms.

They're not having a grow are they?
Might explain the particularly pungent smell throughout the house...

Next time you have the occasion to, have a sniff around your attic space.

Mum may be medicating hence the odd times.
(I medicate with weed)

Our ndn's did the same, it would stink up our flat, wafts of it would cloud out their windows directly into our flat. But this is mumsnet, where smoking weed is super cool and no one is allowed to not like the stink of it.

It's strange, I do quite like the odd waft of weed smell, but not an overwhelming stench.

TheQueef I wondered that. But she's a very heavy smoker anyway, so if she is medicating for something I'm surprised she's still smoking so heavily...