How to deal with organisers, fussers and high energy people?

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I dont want to stay I struggle with depression and anxiety...they are parts of me that I manage. There are days when they are good and not so good. But one of the things that sets it all a clanging is fussers who want to organise me. When I agree to go to an event (which is increasing as I try to push my world a bit further) I like to get there and leave under my own steam.
A friend loves to organise things. She puts herself in the middle of arrangements, lifts etc....then turns up late. Gets arsey about where to drop people off, moans that she hates driving in the dark, insists on every shop being trawled through, each size of a dress tried on.
This drops me into a cold sweat. If it were 1 of the above, I could handle it, but she rolls the whole lot up and its like being on a roller coaster for 3 hours.
Yet, no matter how much I try to avoid her offers of lifts, coffee dates, shopping days out, she just bears down like a hurricane on me. I have declined lifts and dodged stuff and I feel that she may be on the turn with me.
I have told her about how my head functions (and sometimes doesn't) and I have been very clear about it, but she seems to seriously not want to hear.
How do you deal with these types if you know of any.
My depressed head would say she likes the eye of the storm but loves company when shes in there....

I am the same and my stomach was in knots reading your post! I couldn't be friends with someone like that, I need relaxing company.

I work with some high energy fussing folk but I make sure I only have contact with them in small doses.

Noonaim bless you for answering and recognising it. I am so glad i am not alone. I can imagine she thinks I am ungrateful and just as rude but my own pace is fine for me. Her chaos gives me actual physical responses, heightnen the panic mode and ruins whatever event is supposed to be happening.
I have another friend who is always on the go, but gets that her pace is too much for me but doesn't take it personally. We get together every few months but i might be a cup of tea or an art gallery. She understands that i get over loaded, very quickly and it takes a toll on me. Now I am dreading the next event as I am working out ways of steering clear of her. I don't want to miss out yet my depressed side thinks its worth not going, just to aviod the stress. Old and very messed up thinking but it seems like an easy way out

Your friend sounds exhausting and a bit controlling ! If I come across someone like this I either avoid them, or spend time with them strictly on my terms - arrive and leave when I want etc. thing is, this sort of person normally doesn't like that !!

Shazafied thats an interesting point. The more I won't let her marshall me, the harder she tries. At the moment I am getting the distinct impression she is irritated by me.