Things you find hard to get over or regret

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Curious to know what others find difficult to get over - things they regret.

For me it is jobs and opportunities I turned down which I should have taken. I often imagine the life I could have had - a kind of sliding doors - and find it hard not to think about. I have swelled on these for years. I also regret how I handled some relationships.

Just curious what others have found difficult to get over so I know I'm not alone.

I regret going to study at a university for my year abroad instead of teaching English. I found it impossible to understand the classes and failed the year abroad. I still graduated but with a different degree title.
I also regret the place I went to. There was bugger all to do. I should have chosen Berlin but I was worried I wouldn’t get a place and went for somewhere else. Interestingly I have just discovered that my university no longer has an Erasmus partnership with the university I went to (Kiel).

I have got over the year (the worst bit of university by far), but I do kind of regret what I chose to do and where I went. I am quite proud of myself for getting through the year, as I knew I wanted my degree. If it had been a few decades ago and no internet, I would’ve dropped out.

I’ve not been massively successful or struggled to capitalise in success so I regret: failing my original degree (I qualified in something else but still), I regret not capitalising on my temporary promotion that I had for two years. I regret that I couldn’t hack it in my last job and basically had to transfer elsewhere (to somewhere where people ‘retire’ to). I wish I’d found out I have dyslexia before I turned 21 and that I have ASD before I turned 30! I struggle to get past these things.

My mother had an alcohol addiction for over 30 years. It made her depressed, anxious and in all honesty not a great mother to me. After one too many episodes of dreadful behaviour after yet another promise to quit (she promised so many times) one day I just gave up on her. I had come to the very end of my tether and just had to protect myself and my children. My father was with her and I kept tabs on her from a distance but I never saw or spoke to her. She died two years later - I did go to the hospital but she was already unconscious.
I do regret this - I have told myself it was self preservation but I SHOULD have kept trying, just been supportive even though I couldn’t change her. My father immediately moved another woman in as soon as she died and his attitude was ‘well you abandoned your mother so I will abandon you’ so I lost both my parents. I’ll never get over it.

I regret not saving for deposit for house when I had the chance and no kids. I was too busy enjoying myself and now spend every single day fretting and worrying about security and the future. We are private renting and no real hope of ever getting on the property ladder.

Brown

Brown boots cold heart, my whole family is pickling in alcohol.

Addiction sucks everyone in, there's nothing for you too feel bad about, you didn't ask for suffering mum and arsehole dad... your dad sounds nasty

Find peace.... they are your parents but only a small link in a long chain of who you are going back to the first humans.

I regret not trying harder at school

I regret some friendships I’ve made over the course of my life

I regret some of my choices when younger

I regret lots but a main one is not fighting for the right to finish my degree with honours... later due to massive problems from pickled parents.

Now I think I would have been offered more support... then I should have fought more.

I did get the honours but not the 2.1 I was so close to in hideous family circumstances

God Brownboots thats sad. Im sorry. Hindsight is a wonderful thing!

I wish id realised earlier how to enjoy myself, rather than doing what everyone was doing and not really enjoying it.

I regret not having any romantic relationships in my teens right through until I was 29 and went on my first date.

I’d had a very strict religious upbringing and was petrified of men, still am to be honest. I’m 35, childless and so very lonely. I feel I’ve completely missed out on part of life. I’ve had one relationship but it wasn’t a happy one and he didn’t love me.

Not telling the man that means everything to me I was in love with him before he got a new girlfriend. I’m glad he’s happy but it’s been 3 years and my heart still pangs every time I see him, he is clueless to how I feel but I think she sees it because she gives me daggers! It’s so awkward and horrible.(I would never tell him unless he becomes single)

I regret not standing my ground more in relationships because it’s now distanced me from family.

I regret not working harder at school and focusing on a profession.

I regret not learning from my many mistakes!

I regret not being independent.

The only thing I've regretted is not standing up for myself when younger .
I've had many occasions when treated badly by so called friends and awful employers.
I had a job for quite a number of years but was unhappy near the end I'd voiced concerns but was ignored. I eventually left but I really wish I said why properly.
I learned my lesson , the next job I was quite vocal and when I left I was honest in fact my ex manager said she never met anyone so honest . I think it's about learning from regrets .

for Brown that is really sad. But who is to say things would have been any better if you’d continued to put up with your mother?
You really couldn’t win.
Your dad sounds utterly horrid.
I’m so sorry.