Son doesn’t want to attend dads wedding

[Toffee1234]

My ex husband is getting married abroad. DD is three and delighted. DS is 8 and doesn’t want to go. None of ex’s family will be there (three brothers and wife’s and family) just friends. All in the same villa complex. I’ve stayed out of it and said will be fine. But he’s getting tearful. He doesn’t want to tell dad as he’s already upset his family aren’t attending. This is his fourth wedding and this marriage is a result of a long term affair he had. Thoughts? I’ve said nothing at all.

I would support DS in not going tbh!

Who will be looking after the dcs? You can't expect your ex to take proper care of his very young dcs on his 4th wedding night. Or his friends.

If it was me neither of them would be going if you don't have absolute guarantee that there will be someone who is responsible for them throughout the holiday.

How long is the trip and how does ds feel about his dad’s fiancée?

Has ds been able to articulate what he is worried about? What are the time frames involved (how long since you and your ex split)?

Cant blame him for not wanting to go when there are no other family going. Can't you just tell your eXh straight out that Ds doesn't want to go.

I don't see what the dilemma is here.

Your son doesn't want to go. Poor thing. Why should he?

Your ex husband sounds fickle, self-centred and entitled.

I wouldn’t let my DC go to that tbh. No family to look out for them? Their father sounds hopeless and I wouldn’t trust him to look after them in this instance

Fourth wedding? Just tell ex that DS will catch the next one.

Not sure it's fair to make light of it being ex's fourth wedding. Given the ages of the DCs OP seems to have been wife #3.