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DD, MIL and mental health - just ranting

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Upsy1981 · 20/02/2019 17:56

DD (12) has been out for the day with MIL. In the car they were discussing school and the staff etc and MIL started making very disparaging remarks about kids with MH issues, asking if loads of kids went to the pastoral leader telling them they were 'so depressed' and how it's getting ridiculous the amount of kids who have MH issues and they haven't lived enough to have any issues etc. She asked DD if she had any MH issues. DD didn't know what to say so just said she didn't know. MIL said to her 'No, DGD, the correct answer is no.'

The thing is, DD has had/does gave MH issues. She had CBT for OCD and anxiety last year and although she is much improved to where she was thanks to incredible early intervention and lots of support from various agencies, she still has anxiety which waxes and wanes. MIL doesn't know about this as DD didn't want lots of people to know so obviously she was unaware just quite how insensitive she was being but I'm still fuming about how anyone can be quite so insensitive, especially to a child.

For context, I have had several issues over the years with MIL being generally rude and insensitive but we have a generally OK relationship, and rub along fine when we see each other but I'm not sure if I'm letting history cloud my judgement.

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flumpybear · 20/02/2019 18:10

Your DH needs to give his mum a short sharp jerk in the MIL chain ffs - stupid woman who says that to a child going through hormonal changes if nothing else ... insensitive old bat!
I hope your child isn't too affected by this

Upsy1981 · 20/02/2019 18:17

Thank you. It reassures me that this isn't just me overreacting. Thankfully DD is in quite a good place at the moment but I just dread to think the effect it could have had when DD was at her worst 6 months ago. So DD was able to tell me about it in quite a relaxed, guess what nanna said kind of way. MIL and step FIL make comments about people's weight/appearance etc which I have had to field away from DD in the past as young minds are just so sensitive and one throwaway thoughtless comment has the potential to have devastating consequences.

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