Mum is bored in the school hols let alone the kids!

[Thecrown3]

So my ds 11, is too old for some of the local kids activities but not old enough to do other things.
We ve put the trampoline up but some of his friends are on holiday.
Swimming today and local zoo on Friday but I’m bored.
I have a partner ( not ds dad) but he’s on lates all week so on own .
I was LP for 5 long years but had older ds at home then too but he’s gone off to uni now :-( I used to be able to fill time,I have to an extent , moved room around , washed carpets , all the little jobs I don’t get done full time working.
It’s my break too I guess but I kinda got to a point parenting where I’ve exhausted most things and it can get lonely just one child and me! I also have to use a/l to cover school hols as his twat dad never does ( that’s a post in itself) but ds would happily sit all day gaming if I let him.theres nobody for me to do anything with and still a bit early in year for theme parks/seaside/NT trips out yet
I don’t have many mum friends as been f/t working and the friends I have have older teens !! So ..... mummmmmm I’m bored

I love big houses and gardens with English heritage or nt. I got it for £8.25 a month which was worth it.
Their a bit of a distance from me though so always have to use motorway! And as I say I enjoy them more with company.

I’ll be out in the garden today tidying up,jet washing .normally don’t do that till March but we seem to be in spring like weather already! Ds can go on trampoline or help .

I realised that I have only 3-4 female friends who are all working - it’s probably a little loneliness I feel this hols.they don’t have to be off in the holidays anymore with their teens so don’t get to see anyone.ds has had friends over but parents drop and go now their all getting older!

@penguinpandas how lovely getting a rabbit/ we sadly lost our dwarf rabbit last year at the end of summer after 9 years, think the heat this year had got to the elderly rabbit, even with shade, ice packs etc. He had a good life though, would wait at his cage door every morning for his let out to run round like a dog :-) fond memories, I bought for the older ds one Easter .... now they’ve both flown the nest :-/

My ds is the same age op....it's an awkward age isn't it?! He's too old for lots of things we used to do...soft play, farm, playground etc but too young to go out independently with his friends. He likes bowling, cinema and swimming but gets bored hanging out with his mum and little sister all day!

My ds is just a little older than yours, but my dd is still only 8. Yep it gets boring, by yesterday we'd been everywhere and ds just wanted a day at home today, so I've decided to decorate the living room. So far we've papered one walk and painted the rest ( started painting last night) I'm about the start painting the woodwork, as I need to do something, I can't just sit. Once that's finished tomorrow we'll drive somewhere and stay overnight. Before we get back into our usual routine on Sunday.

I end up tending to do the jobs I can’t do in the normal working week in the hols but then resent it a bit coz it’s dull!! But then can’t afford to be going away every holiday either and I’m not off every holiday .

No advice but just wanted to say I get bored too! I've got 2 ds but I've posted about them already how they have no interest in doing anything but technology. I just want to get out the house! I'm off to the gym now and they can stay on their own for a couple of hours.

I just had lightbulb moment too, my dp annoys me. He works shifts , his dc are a little older and their mum sorts childcare so he rarely is off at same time as me.
I’m in a relationship but still feel alone as it’s v rare we re off together and he doesn’t see it’s worth taking a day off at same time as me to do anything, which we could!!! Grrrrr whole other thread that would need by just typing that.

Sounds like you are craving adult company. Maybe you (or you and ds ) could volunteer together for a charity project, it's a nice way to meet people.

((Thecrown)) It does sound like a people problem rather than an inability to think of avtivities. Feeling alone in a relationship is truly horrible isnt it. And friends being unavailable. My closest 2 dont live anywhere near here and I think with small kids there's more a culture of meeting up to do things together (farm/park etc) which would be weird with older kids all going put with parents.

Can dp book a day off midweek next time to do something altogether? Or invite a friend to come stay at the weekend. I'm really not sure. We also have a younger child so have that built in person-to-go-on-zipwire with so can see our situation is different to having one at home.

Unfortunately I've become quite lethargic so am still in bed reading and mumsnetting at 10.40am while child has a friend downstairs. I need to sort that!

@snog and @swimming - your right it is more a people problem than stuff to do.
I guess I poorly planned this a/l due to worry on weather - an ds just getting over a 4 week on/off virus . Better planning for Easter !!

I think Easter is a much nicer holiday, better weather and 2 weeks. You could even get an Easter 🐇, DD has persuaded DH to get two 8 week old bunnies tonight. Though he did say no to DS request for a giant continental bunny - those can grow to over a metre and like to live inside roam free. Ours will live inside but 3 foot is a bit much.

Lol lol that would be like having another child!!
I hope you get many years of pleasure from them like we did.
No more bunnies for us, we have 3 dogs and a hamster as it is!

Thanks very much.

You could just get a small bunny like this one:

www.pets4homes.co.uk/classifieds/2183874-darius-jeff-are-the-worlds-biggest-rabbits-worcester.html

Omg .... to mow the lawn ?!

I always found Feb half term the hardest, lots of my friends are skiing or at work, and DH often away for work

Never liked NT as I have a dog, and don't like going for walks without her....

The dog meant I took tween DSs for walk every morning, which then meant I was more relaxed about screens

But yeah, Feb half term.is best if you work or are away on holiday IMzo