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I cant stop thinking about having another baby!

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CaptainCallisto · 19/02/2019 19:39

DH and I have two DS's (7 and 5) and had no plans for another. DS1 is in the process of an assessment for ASD, DS2 has some minor health issues (nothing serious but under paediatrician at the hospital), we only have a small three bed house. I was convinced we were done; I didn't want another and neither did he!

Then in October I randomly missed a period and started having early pregnancy symptoms. I was terrified I was pregnant. I was desperate not to be, right up until I did the test and I wasn't. I was heartbroken!

I thought it was just shock and hormones and would go away, but it hasn't. I can't get the idea of another out of my head! It's so not a practical thing to do - we're just getting to the point where we don't have to worry about going places, or constant sleepless nights etc...

Has anybody else had this? Even though you know it's a bad idea? I need for it to go away...

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 19/02/2019 20:20

I’ve heard of quite a few women that have had this experience, I think it’s a thing.

flowersaremyfave · 19/02/2019 20:29

Yep me 🙋🏻‍♀️

Debated a 6th because I like even numbers and dh desperately wanted one more. Dd2 is hard work and always has been so I said "nope I'm done, shutting up shop, finito!" But the broody feelings keep coming back and I keep pushing them away even when 2 of my friends gave birth in October.

Then on Saturday I found out I'm pregnant 🤦🏻‍♀️ So the decisions been taken from me now!

Oh well what's one more when you already have five 😬

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CaptainCallisto · 19/02/2019 20:33

Did they act on it, Duck? I'm spending so much time trying to remind myself of the bad bits of baby and toddlerhood, but all I can think about is the snuggly cuddles and the first steps

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CaptainCallisto · 19/02/2019 20:35

Oh goodness, flowers - congratulations on number 6!

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barkinatthemoon · 19/02/2019 21:02

This is me right now too! 2 dds (4 and almost 2) and life is just becoming a tad easier, and I know will only continue to do so if we just stick to 2. I don't even enjoy the baby stage one bit, and so glad I'm past it, but every single day I can't shift the feeling of wanting/needing to have a 3rd 😣! Really wish it would go away as I know it would be impractical, and everyone I know says going from 2 to 3 is really hard, and we live comfortably now, but a 3rd would stretch us financially and space wise. I'm not sure I could even physically or mentally cope with the sleepless nights and baby phase again. I really DON'T want another, but I cannot shift this feeling and find myself obsessing over baby names, and imagining life with 3. And my biggest problem is my oh would love another, so I'm constantly battling these annoying feelings and him pestering me! Have you got any pets? Someone suggested to me to get a puppy.... I don't think it would actually help rid me of these baby feelings, and we basically have a zoo anyway and I have no desire to have anymore animals!

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CaptainCallisto · 19/02/2019 21:10

We have a cat and some tropical fish. I suggested a guinea pig to DH but he wasn't having a bar of it!

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barkinatthemoon · 19/02/2019 21:30

What does your OH think op, would he like another?

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CaptainCallisto · 19/02/2019 21:46

He says if it happens it wouldn't be the end of the world, and he'd be happy, but that he doesn't think we should actively try. And he's right - there are so many reasons why it would be a really bad idea - I just can't shake this feeling!

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flowersaremyfave · 19/02/2019 21:52

@CaptainCallisto thank you. Still can't get my head around it.

The sexual health clinics should be giving broody mums those dolls that students get to bring home to put them off having babies 😂 a day or two with one of those would stump your feeling op 😂

barkinatthemoon · 19/02/2019 21:56

it's so irritating isn't it! I actually asked to have my tubes tied during my elective c section, but they refused due to my age and only having 2 children and I was really annoyed as I KNEW we wouldn't have anymore... now I'm wondering if they'd have done it would I be regretting it now? Or would pregnancy not even be on my radar as it wouldn't be a possibility?
OH keeps saying maybe wait a couple of years and see how I feel then as there's no rush, and then I end up saying that if we're having another, I want to try soon as don't want a big age gap, and then we end up kind of agreeing to try for a baby and next minute I'm like "OMG! WTF! I DON'T EVEN WANT ONE!?!" He thinks I've fully lost the plot. The best way to describe it is, 1 day a week I can see all the positives and would 100% like to to have another, but the other 6 days I know it would b crazy, and it's the complete wrong decision for us. Goes to google baby names for the 3rd time this week.....

smokealarm · 19/02/2019 22:28

This is me! Just had DD2 and already thinking ahead to number 3 but we really can't afford it. Problem is I don't think I'll feel "complete" unless I have a third! 🙈

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