How many Godparents does you child/children have?

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Just that, really how many?

Did you go for the traditional 3, or more? Starting to think ahead to DD's christening!

None, we are atheist.

'More' is not godparents, that's like a team... My child is not christened. I am godmother to 2 children, both have the usual 3.

Ok maybe should have been more clear...

If your child IS christened, how many Godparents do they have?

I am looking to get my DD christened (and yes, I attend church), and wondering what others chose when they christened their child.

4 each. thats only because I didn't want to leave my sil out both times.
they do nothing though.....so all a waste of time.

2 god parents and 3 'supportive friends' (CofE terminology) as some of our good friends aren't Christians. The stuff they have to say is slightly different.

@Samcro thanks our church is only in a tiny village and there's not a lot of christenings going on!
The lash couple I've been to have had various numbers of Godparents and I wasn't sure what was the 'done' thing anymore 🤷‍♀️ we have a lot of people who have been very involved with DD since she was born and it's so hard trying to narrow it down!

Mine has 4, all completely useless 😂 one is my brothers ex gf and we don't even see her any more.

I have 1 god child too and I don't see them ever.

If I did it again I'd just choose family.

@nuttyslackster that's interesting! I hadn't realised there was a difference. Thanks

DD has two married couples. Both long term friends of the family and involved in her life although we only see them every couple of months. Have never regretted the choice.

If they weren't married we maybe would have had just 3.

@OnTheFrow this is our difficulty! Do we only choose family? Although honestly some of our friends have been more involved than our family and I really feel they deserve to be asked. But then I know that would upset other friends I could go on forever but I feel like asking lots of people defeats the object somehow?

My daughter has 5.

Dh best friends
2 close friends of mine
My godmothers son (regular church goer)

Gosh there's some mardy posters upthread!

We will be having 5, we originally wanted the 'traditional' 3 but couldn't decide and our new baby is probably going to be our only child.

The royals tend to have quite a few. If it's good enough for them...

I don't have kids, but I am godmother to 2 girls.
Child 1 (my best friend's daughter) has 3 godparents (me and her 2 uncles)
Child 2 (our niece) has 4 godparents (Me, DH, her DM's brother & his wife)

I have thought about this, should DH and I have kids, and we would probably go for 2 couples, so 4 godparents

Dd has 3 (2 women 1 man) My sister, my best friend of 26 years and my cousin. All lovely and I’m quite pleased with my choices!

forgot to add one couple are technically supportive friends. But our vicar was very inclusive and included them throughout the service, around the font etc. They just didn't vow to teach about god (or something). Vicar added in a fab part in his talk about other things they could teach DD (cocktail making was one if I remember rightly).

I feel like the least I could get it down to would be 5, which I'm quite happy with. I just know that it would disappoint those we'd left out!
Cant please them all I guess....

and finally.. we chose friends as DH has an abnormally small family and we didnt want to exclude people so it was easier to exclude them all and increase DDs 'family' by using friends. Hope that makes sense...

Our sons have four each.

Our 22 year old son has my sister, my cousin and two friends of my husband (one of whom we’ve since lost contact with).

Our 18 year old son has my oldest friend and his wife (I’ve known him from birth and he was born a couple of days before me), another friend of mine and also my husband’s sister (who shows very little interest and rarely even remembers our son’s birthday).

I feel like the least I could get it down to would be 5, which I'm quite happy with. I just know that it would disappoint those we'd left out!

Adding more will make that better, not worse - it's more hurtful to not be chosen if seven other people were than if three other people were, IYSWIM? One of my friends had this problem with her wedding - she couldn't get it down to a reasonable number of bridesmaids so designated 15 (seriously) women as 'special helpers' with matching fascinators and was amazed when it upset people: being told you're not in someone's closest two/three friends is very different to being told you're not in their top 15...

For what it's worth, DS had three: two men, one woman (the woman and one of the men are a couple)

Adding more will make that better, not worse

Argh, typo/brain fart - I meant 'worse not better'

@Findingthingstough18 yes I totally understand what you mean, and you're right! We have 2 friends we would definitely have to ask (husband and wife) and could maybe ask one each of our siblings. I know that both SIL would be disappointed, and I risk falling out with my only other friend if she's not asked I think.
Ah it's like the wedding politics all over again

Similar to a PP, six- three are godparents and three sponsors or something (can't remember the terminology). Because in CoE we had to have three christened Christian godparents before we could include our other friends that we wanted that are from other religions.

Each of my kids has 3.

Is it traditional in Church of England to have 3 godparents?

I’m Irish and have only ever heard of people having two.

Dd has my sister (who is great and involved) and DH’s brother (who is less great). DC2 will be getting DH’s best mate and his sister, but I’d love to add in my friend if I can swing 3 godparents!

Is it traditional in Church of England to have 3 godparents?

Our church's form for a baptism application had a section called 'names of godparents (ideally 2-4)' so that's clearly what they thought was 'normal'. I'm not claiming that's universal for the CofE, though, might just be our church.