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How mad would you be?

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MyBreadIsEggy · 18/02/2019 17:27

Background info so as not to drip feed:

  • DH has access to both landlines and his mobile for majority of the day
  • Me having the car most days over half term was pre-arranged between us at the weekend

DH and I share a car. I dropped him off at work (approx 6 miles from home but can take up to 30 mins in traffic) this morning, went off and did what was planned with the DCs (2yo & 3yo) and he told me that he would be done and ready for a lift home by 4pm. Not a problem.
Drive to DHs work on my way home, arrive by 3:50pm, pull up and wait. 4pm comes and goes, no DH. Wasn’t too bothered at that point, running a few minutes late isn’t a big deal.
4:30pm comes and goes. No DH. No text, no phone call to acknowledge that I’m there or that he is running late. Not really worth driving home, which can take 20-30 mins in traffic, only to come out again soon to get him when he’s actually ready Hmm
4:45pm comes and goes. Kids are obviously getting bored and antsy in the car, still no text or call from DH to let me know what’s going on. So I send a text saying that if he’s not ready for a lift in the next 5 mins then I’m going to go home and sort the kids dinner and he will have to get a lift home with someone else.
Out he strolls at 4:55pm, with a face on because I sent an antsy text Hmm No apology that the DCs have been stuck in the car for best part of an hour waiting for him or any acknowledgement that it may have been courteous to ping a quick text that he’s running late Hmm
I don’t know if I’m being pathetic in my rage, but I’m seething. It’s as if he honks I plan my entire day around being his taxi service!
Would you be mad if your DH did this?! Or am I just being a twat?

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MyBreadIsEggy · 18/02/2019 17:28

Thinks* not honks Confused

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FadedRed · 18/02/2019 17:30

He’s the twat here. Get him a push bike for his next birthday.

Chasingsquirrels · 18/02/2019 17:30

I'd be cross, ad you not chased him up before the 4.45pm text?
Having said at 4.45pm I'd be going in 5 mins I wouldn't have still been there at 4.55pm unless he'd replied.

Echobelly · 18/02/2019 17:34

I'd be pissed off unless he had some awesome reason he couldn't call me, like sudden emergency meeting he couldn't get out of.

Insomnibrat · 18/02/2019 17:36

Had you waited a full 45 mins before contacting him to let him know you were outside?

Isleepinahedgefund · 18/02/2019 17:38

I’d have sent a message when I got there.

CurcubitaPepo · 18/02/2019 17:39

I’d be fuming!!

caughtinanet · 18/02/2019 17:41

I think I'd have sent a text when I got there saying I was outside. Whether he's unreasonable depends on your normal routine - would he expect you to go to his work at the usual time or wait for a message from him?

hidinginthenightgarden · 18/02/2019 17:42

I'd be pissed off but would have text at 4pm to say we are outside. How did he know you had arrived? Would he have been expected to stand outside in the cold if you had been late?

HowlsMovingBungalow · 18/02/2019 17:44

I'd tell him to get public transport from tomorrow.

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MyBreadIsEggy · 18/02/2019 17:49

Sorry, so much for not wanting to drip feed Blush I thought I’d put it in the OP - I did text when I arrived at 3:50pm just saying “I’m in the main car park where I dropped you off”.
Text wasn’t acknowledged.
Have plans with a friend and her DCs tomorrow, tickets have been paid for - which he knew about yesterday - and he now decides that he has to be in early tomorrow so needs the car Hmm Think again sunshine Hmm

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TheMightyToosh · 18/02/2019 17:49

Why on earth didn't you just text or call him?

TheMightyToosh · 18/02/2019 17:50

Ah cross post - sorry OP

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 18/02/2019 18:15

I'd have rung him at 4:10.

ColourMeStoked · 18/02/2019 18:17

That would piss me off, is he usually such an arse?

Crunchymum · 18/02/2019 18:22

I'd have called him when I arrived?

Iloveacurry · 18/02/2019 18:23

Yes I’d be annoyed too. Hope you put him right about the car tomorrow!

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MyBreadIsEggy · 18/02/2019 18:26

iloveacurry I told him I’ve already paid for the tickets so he needs to find his own way to work!

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TaimaandRanyasBestFriend · 18/02/2019 18:30

I'd have rung him at 4.10. Then I'd ring again at 4.15 saying I'm leaving in 5 minutes and then I'd leave.

MissSmithToYou · 18/02/2019 18:33

The answer to this is another car. You clearly can't manage with just the one car

PurplePepperEater · 18/02/2019 18:39

More fool you for waiting that long, I’d have been gone by 4:15

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MyBreadIsEggy · 18/02/2019 18:59

Oh how I wish two cars was a possibility Sad We simply can’t afford to run and insure 2 cars.
Usually it’s not an issue, DH takes the car most days, DC1 goes to nursery every morning, and DC2 and I can keep relatively busy at home or in our small village. But this week it’s half term, which DH is well aware of, so there’s no way I’m keeping 2 kids cooped up in the house all week as the weather is shit. We’d already discussed the fact that I’d be needing the car this week, so I think being an hour late and not bothering to let me know about it was a twattish move!

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LadyHardy · 18/02/2019 19:05

He's being an arse. I share a car with my DH and frequently give him lifts to and from work. He wouldn't let me sit there waiting for him, especially with the kids in the car. You need to drop his arse off at Halfords so he can buy a bike. Cf'er.

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 18/02/2019 19:08

Bike? Bloody skate board. He is acting like a selfish teen. Treat him like one.
Hide your car keys tonight op.

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MyBreadIsEggy · 18/02/2019 19:27

April Will definitely be on the hunt for a bike for his birthday in the Spring!
I think he’s now realised he’s being a nob and that my day doesn’t revolve entirely around ferrying him about Hmm

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