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Have I scared him off

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Ggghh · 17/02/2019 21:40

Please help there is a guy who comes into my work place who I really like. He always speaks when I see him.
The other week he crept up behind me and made some suggestive comments. He took me by surprise and I got embarrassed and completely ignored him. He spoke briefly the following day but I still felt embarrassed and made a total fool of myself. Now he won't even speak to me 😭 Have I blown things. Please help as he is very nice .

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Janedoughnut · 17/02/2019 21:52

crept up behind me and made some suggestive comments

He's really not nice. Sounds like a creep.

BigStripeyBastard · 17/02/2019 21:58

Define 'suggestive comments'....

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Ggghh · 17/02/2019 22:10

Rather more sexual comments. Took me by surprise Hence why I was embarrassed. Just didn't know what to say.

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Kittykat93 · 17/02/2019 22:13

Hmm. A guy creeping up behind me and and making sexual comments isn't the sort of guy I'd be going for. Whatever floats your boat though op.

Bezalelle · 17/02/2019 22:13

What you ought to have said was "Fuck off, you mucky pervert" then promptly called HR>

TC07 · 17/02/2019 22:27

Sorry, but the suggestive comments would have put me off him straight away

CommunistLegoBloc · 17/02/2019 22:29

Someone who creeps up behind a woman in her workplace and makes unsolicited sexual comments is not someone you want to date.

Redcampions · 18/02/2019 02:15

Why did he say exactly

Parthenope · 18/02/2019 06:45

He’s not ‘very nice’. He’s a sleaze bag.

daisychain01 · 18/02/2019 07:57

Come on, OP, raise the bar.

He was hardly pushing the boat out to impress if his 'chat up' line was a sleazy sexual innuendo.

You've given him the message he's blown it, don't backtrack now.

PleaseJustSayNo · 18/02/2019 08:09

But clearly he hasn't blown it. Clearly OP is interested. Nobody knows what level OP and this guy were on or their conversations. And just because OP was embarrassed and caught off guard, it doesn't mean what he said was unsolicited.

Just speak to him OP, if you want this to progress then initiate the conversation. He probably feels equally embarrassed.

SparklyMagpie · 18/02/2019 08:11

That would put me right off. Eww

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Ggghh · 18/02/2019 14:12

Are conversations were very limited in all fairness . It just caught me off guard and I was so embarrassed by the comments I couldn't even look at him let alone speak.

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DianaT1969 · 18/02/2019 14:24

Did you find him attractive still?

Hairyporker · 18/02/2019 14:31

Do you work with Sid James?

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Ggghh · 18/02/2019 16:31

He is very good looking. And no I don't work with sid James 🤨

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SmashedMug · 18/02/2019 18:02

Ah, the old "if you're good looking you can get away with anything".

SpanishTiles · 18/02/2019 18:04

Dying to know what he said! Grin

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Ggghh · 18/02/2019 21:17

Have I said he's old.🤔 . What he said was very direct . That's all I'm saying . Just very surprised he came out with it as we don't have lengthy chat's and sometimes I can go weeks without seeing him. Like I say just really caught me off guard and I was left speechless.

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Adversecamber22 · 18/02/2019 21:25

What men like these need is a swift kick to the balls.

PtahNeith · 18/02/2019 22:23

Someone who creeps up behind a woman in her workplace and makes unsolicited sexual comments is not someone you want to date.

I think you need to work on your idea of what "very nice" means, op.

He was inappropriate, he shocked you, he embarrassed you... And now here you are beating yourself up for having "blown it"? Really?

Are you in the habit of blaming yourself for the consequences of other people's actions? The only person who should be beating themselves up for their behaviour is him for embarrassing you.

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Ggghh · 21/02/2019 12:15

Thanks for your comments everyone. There very much appreciated.

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Cookmysock1 · 21/02/2019 13:12

Did he say "I want to fuck you badly "?
The only answer being ",I'd rather you did it well "

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Ggghh · 22/02/2019 09:07

Spot on . . Cookmysock 1

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