Hi,
I'd really like some advice. I'm really struggling to cope with my eldest Dd (9). She is angry and goes out of her way to defy us at every opportunity.
An example is this evening; I asked the children to go upstairs and brush their teeth. The younger two go and Dd rolls around on the floor yelling no. This goes on for 15 minutes, during which time I stay very calm and explain that we have a busy week ahead and need to get sorted for bed. She glares and shouts no. I explain that I don't want to have to carry her because I'm struggling with a neck / shoulder injury.
Another 5 minutes and I snap, shout at her and carry her down the hallway. I couldn't get her to brush her teeth and she's now in her room, kicking both feet very hard on to next door's wall ( she knows this gets a reaction as they have two young children, and I don't want to upset them) She's shouting that I'm an idiot and I hate her .
I don't know what to do. This happens all the time. It's exhausting and scares the younger two. She is a model pupil at school, so asking them for support has proved futile.
How would you deal with the above?
I want to deal with this calmly and kindly, but I end up getting so cross. I'm sat in my room in tears because this just keeps happening.
Sorry this is SO long. Thank you if you got this far. Would really appreciate some insight/advice.